Colorful blanket spread out on the green grass, it picnic basket. Happy mom with elegant styling perfect color ruddy feed crumbs smiling in a white diaper from the spoon fruit puree. It looks like motherhood in television commercials, and so we see it as long? until we become mothers.
We so want to see all of us, it was also perfect: the hair, and clean healthy Butusov, who never cries. But adjusted to the reality of all these things are not true. Editorial Kolobok.ua 5 learned the terrible sins of young mothers, in which they had no one recognized.
Against the rules
How to bring up children and to ensure their proper care in this country everyone knows. Young mom gets lots of advice about how to feed her, treat, bathe and put to bed crumbs. Whether to take him in her arms, and at what age weaned. And this advice, not only from the pediatrician, but also from my mother-in-law, neighbor and friend childless. It was they certainly know how to, and always stick with a nose, if a young mom is doing something wrong. And when no one is looking, she allows herself the first sin: do not like the pediatrician recommends, forums and magazines, as well as comfortable to her.
What to do? Treat all advice is critical. Listen to your parental intuition. You and the baby are individual, do so, as it is convenient to you.
ALL IS NOT PERFECT
How I would like to be the perfect mother: iron on both sides diapers and undershirts, maintain impeccable order necessarily every day to do massage crumbs and cook vegetable soup yourself instead of buying it in supermarket. But then a young mother lies in wait for the second sin: it is not enough time and effort to be perfect. And yesterday she was so tired that the baby was in the evening without water procedures.
What to do? We can not always keep pace with the most. Feel free to attract mates. From this no one thinks you are a bad mother. Delegate authority to the husband and the grandparents. First of all, the child needs a happy and healthy mom.
I was annoyed
A good mother should not experience negative emotions to your child. And if the kid annoys me - I'm a bad mother. And yesterday, I even shouted at him.
What to do?Do not hesitate to their emotions. You are not a robot. If you are angry, irritated - do not hide it inward. Acknowledge their feelings, first of all, himself. Share with loved ones. Suffice it to say openly, for example, her husband, "Honey, I'm very angry right now because she was tired. You could stay with the child for 15 minutes, and I lie down in the tub and rest. " Any adequate person will react normally. Love yourself and allow yourself to be alive.
I'm not worried about him
Mother in law is horrified by how easily you put the baby for a walk. Other moms at the playground every second insure children "stop, do not go, do not run, fall down," and you calmly watch as crumb self climbs the hill. Also, do not fall into a swoon when he began runny nose or fever. And sometimes you can think the thought creeps in, and a good mother if I, if so little worried about him?
What to do?We decided to create unnecessary fuss around children, not kudahchesh crumbs around - stepmother, not his mother. In fact, excessive parental anxiety and overprotection creates a further set of psychological problems of the child and prevent mother to adequately respond to the really important situations.
Nostalgia LIFE
The image of the ideal mother: she was overjoyed, because the baby was born and she was in life do not need anything other than her precious crumbs. And when your mind comes to mind, how great it was before the output to go to the theater, hang with friends, or aimless lie on the couch, it was immediately overtaken by another thought: "I am a bad mother, and his love is not enough child. "
What to do?Love, do not even hesitate. Just now, you have absolutely no time and effort on. Try to find a way to once a week to leave the crumbs with his mother, nanny, her husband and treat yourself to a manicure, shopping or going to the pool. You deserve it!
