Steve Biddulph in his book "Raising boys' loudly declared that the boys do not grow by themselves - the parents it is important to know how to bring out the wonderful angel in "three hundred" base weight confident person - sensual, able to quickly and correctly make decisions. It is utopian to think that if you just feed your baby on the textbook of pediatrics, buy cars son, teach his letters and child dress in clean clothes, then one day the boy wakes up a real man.
Yes, life is rushing at unbelievable speed, rules of conduct and to adapt to changing realities, but three stages of development Boys remain unchanged, and they will help you find out which note the words and the energy necessary to his son in each of the periods of his growing up.
FIRST STAGE: FROM BIRTH TO 6 YEARS
At this stage, especially the boy tied to his mother, although it is very necessary and the Pope, who "makes" men touches to the picture of the world, but also demonstrates the support and protection of the mother. In the first 6 years, it is important to give the child lots of love and a sense of security. In this case inspired child is ready to enter the next stage, as in the large exciting adventure.
SECOND STAGE: From 6 to 14 years
At this time, the role of the pope, who helps his son to learn more about the world and man's influence on him - the boy watches Pope speaks in the family and at work, as it makes decisions and acts that he is interested in, and that he considered useless for life. At this stage, the boy appears the joy of feeling that he belonged to the strong floor.
Mom, in turn, take care at this stage of the harmonious development of his son - his intelligence, abilities, skills communicate with friends and growing up difficult world of adults, who are constantly pushing the boy needs.
THIRD STAGE: FROM 14 TO 18 YEARS (TO MAJORITY)
This is the stage of preparation for adult life, however, both parents are somewhat in the background, and son It uses the experience and increases it from communicating with their peers and the virtual world (friends from social networks).
Parents it is important not to lose contact with the child, teaching him the rules of existence in the adult status using all its "pros and cons", to help decide on future career, to instill a sense of responsibility and self-esteem.
Points to remember
These steps do not change dramatically - they move smoothly one into another. Moreover, one of the boys, one step can replace another earlier, someone later, but in any case - need the support of parents, who are acutely aware, that their child is changing, and help him to be transformed, to become more mature and realize what positive moments he appeared, and that the behavior can be corrected.
Mother need to understand how important it is the baby in the first 6 years and try to be there in the form of an attentive and loving, and not a "snarling Bok". Pope's son, who went to school, we can not cover the removal of the child from making money - talk with his father, the time spent with him for a son as important as air. If a dad in the family did not all work out, such a mentor can take uncle, grandfather, elder brother. Otherwise, a teenager comes out in a new and complex world feels that there he was... no one is waiting. And all because the parents did not know how to develop and grow the boys, and the time did not provide the necessary assistance to his son.
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