The world knows many examples when brought up in love and prosperity as a result of child turned into infantile, irresponsible creature. Why it happens? And how can we deal with it?
It has been proved that the responsibility - not an innate quality. It is necessary to inculcate and develop. Literally from childhood man should have a good understanding: he shall be responsible for their misdeeds and be able to accept compensation (especially moral) for their success. So how do you raise a responsibility?
If your little child is willing to help you, for example, to wash dishes, to collect clean socks or download dirty laundry in the washing machine, give him that opportunity. Even if the baby will not turn out - do not worry. The main thing is that he learns to help you!
When a child he does what he wants (and not you instead of him), he is aware of the power their solutions, realizes that he can act. Thus, the crumb begins to feel independent person.
And do not forget to praise your child for sure made them strong. For example, baby helped you to vacuum the apartment, and for you it is not an abstract "thank you, well done!" And "Thank you, my umnichka, we are now quick release, so we can go for a walk!"
Understand that trying to help you, the child, of course, will not be able to do it right. And instead of saying, "it is not necessary, I myself!" Or "Let me do it, so will be faster!", Have patience and show (maybe even more than once) how to properly.
Do not ask your child in advance impossible tasks. To compare his age and capabilities, because it does not fulfill your order once or twice, to get a "scolding", the child later will refuse to carry out any orders.
I was somehow the situation with her daughter. We asked her to go to the store and buy a dozen eggs. We give some money and ask for the surrender buy something else on the little things. Our child comes home with only a dozen eggs. On the question of why bought the eggs, the child said that is no longer enough. We began to find out why. It turns out that my daughter bought the most expensive eggs of all. Again, one wonders why they bought? Her response: "And they are beautiful!" (Beautifully packaged).
In this situation, the right not to scold the child and explain what his mistake. To tell the difference of the same egg producers, recommend exactly what to take. But do not forget to thank for the work done. It is we, the parents, did not specify what kind of eggs need to be bought, and the child just the handrail!
Sometimes, the child himself summoned help, the duties should be turned into a game. I'll tell you a case from my life: collecting clean socks in a separate box. completely pulled out of the closet for the convenience of the box itself. My son was still crawling Malyavka, reached into the box and is quite scattered all gathered around. I'm thinking a little, turned it into a game, where the son should collect "treasures" in the form of socks. So we spent quite a long time. The game he liked, and he refused to stop it, even when I have already collected. Now, despite the fact that he had grown up, anyway, as soon I see that I get the box, throw everything and run to collect "treasures"!
Children love to play in any of its manifestations. Because even in such moments, try to arrange everything with the game approach. Pay attention to what your child likes to perform. Sometimes, a kid with passion will take to wash the dishes, but in any not make it to hang things neatly in the closet. While it is small, let the jobs your child that he likes. And a little later, explain the importance of fulfilling any task. Make it your best bet is the duty of the child to help take care of some pets. Kid long time asks you for a dog? Start small, give him a guinea pig on the condition that he proves, how can take care of it. If it is to deal with it, buy a long-awaited doggie.
What is the responsibility
Responsibility for their own healthBlocking any kid to climb in all sorts of holes and crevices, not allowing it to hot oven, we do not allow the child to understand the degree of risk. Show your child how hot is actually oven. Surely, he went to her and not touch, but realizes that touch the oven while it is working, you can not. Or another example: the baby insert fingers when slides boxes. Once is enough for him (when he nipped her finger), to understand that it is necessary to retract the drawer gently.
Another option liability - respect. For example, my father went to bed after a hard day. Explain that in this period of high-profile games banned. Bring it up every time his mind, that we must respect and love ones.
Respect for the things - also an option liability. Explain to your child that each thing worth some money, my mother her each time to wash and iron. Gradually, the child will understand that from its accuracy will depend on how he looks, what he enjoys. Later this understanding will spread to the world.
The next option liability - responsible for his word. You may have encountered people who, through their promises scattered right and left. Such a person, no one will respect you. That is why it is necessary to explain to the child how important it is to keep your word and how it is valued in the world.
It is rightly said in his time a famous French writer Ernest Legouvé: "The purpose of education - to teach our children to do without us." Nurture the child's self-responsible. Remember that at every stage of growing degree of responsibility varies, and the task of parents to teach their children the quality.
