Your baby has already become quite adult and independent, but at the same time and could damage relations with them: so that a son or daughter, a teenager may begin to show rudeness, brutality and aggression, even if you have previously been an example for follow. Why all of a sudden it happened, let's see.
Rudeness and aggression - for parents almost the most important signs that a child has matured. And though all the moms and dads are preparing for adulthood beloved offspring, problems in relationships with them are often caught them by surprise. but rudeness teenager - not a reason to step back from it, quarrel or not to react. We need to help the beloved son or daughter go through this difficult period in his life, then you will be able to maintain the respect and trust of his grown-up children.
The causes of adolescent boorishness
- as a rudeness a way of self-affirmation: Teenager think if screaming and conflict with parents, they will be able to resolve the situation in their favor.
- as a rudeness way to attract attentionparents.
- Copying the behavior of parentsIf you allow yourself often speak in a raised voice and show aggression, it is not surprising that your older child will behave in a similar way.
- hormonal surge: Frequent and abrupt changes of hormonal teenagers leads to the fact that it becomes a conflict, irritable and aggressive.
- Search the boundaries of what is permitted: Teenager, when he wants to seem adult and independent, can be aggressive, even if such behavior is not peculiar to him, that is, it is - a way to make a call to the outside world.
Advice to parents how to respond to rudeness and aggression teenager
1. Spend more time with your teen. It would seem that the child grew up and became an independent, but during this period he is in need of communication with his parents, because in view of ongoing changes to it, he may think that is not needed or is not interesting you.
2. If the son or daughter to you raises his voice, do not try to shout: it is better to ignore his call to the conflict or begin to talk quietly and calmly. Say it until he talks to you like that, you give something to discuss.
3. Curb rudeness at once, explaining that such behavior is unacceptable, and why. For the "visibility" can take it on the video, and then show how the part looks like ugly manner of communication. But after the resolution of the conflict must remove this video and, moreover, do not use it as compromising.
4. adjust line of education. Thus, aggressive children usually grow in authoritarian families where the mother and (or) Dad can scream at each other or to children. As a result, the child responds to you in the same coin. To avoid this, set the scope of communication, in which you will hear and respect the opinions and needs of each other, and the way out of difficult situations will be trade-offs.
5. Put in front of a teenager only achievable goals and encourage him when he achieves them. And if he needs your help and participation, do not ignore the child. In this case, it is not necessary to solve the problem for him, help him to get out of this situation, or give advice on how best to proceed.
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