Strong-willed and confident man attracted to women who has an opinion and is able to make a spectacular career. Can not be said about the "mama's little boy", and lack of initiative led by males. And the cause is an error in the education, committed by their mothers. And what, try to understand.
Typically, a mama's boy becomes a man, a child deprived of male attention: for example, if the parents are divorced, and his father took no part in the upbringing of her son. Either in the family mother is too authoritarian, and not just the son of subordinates, but also her husband under her thumb and does not have voting rights: in this case, a boy growing up copies parental scheme in future behavior.
In this case, every mother wants to see her son in the future, a strong and powerful, and errors in bringing up negative affecting his self-confidence and responsibility for your life, make the most of the unconsciously. What you need to do that from your boy grew up a mama's boy?
1. Excessive patronize and regret
Overprotection and pity have a negative impact not only on the emotional state of the boy, but also his health. Thus, the prohibition of active play games, run and jump leads to inactivity and excess weight, as well as to a decrease in immunity, and frequent colds. As a result, the child becomes more sick, lethargic and unsure of himself. And the age-old desire to wrap up and feed her son even more impairs his health.
2. Consult in matters of a personal nature as an equal
Some single mothers are afraid to arrange a personal life for the sake of your child, and sometimes consult with his young son, whether she should marry or go to a meeting with a man. Naturally, the child is surrounded by care and attention mum flare of jealousy and his answer will be obvious. And when the boy grows up and become a man, his mother will blame the fact that for him to give up personal happiness.
3. Criticize his father and get used to the role of victim
If the child to explain what a bad dad and how he had wronged them for what the family split up, to no good it will not. Firstly, the boy will not be formed an idea of what a man should be. And secondly, it will subconsciously afraid to create your family to do the unfortunate other people: his future wife and children.
4. physical punishment
Punishing children physically impossible in principle. Sometimes it is possible by the father and very serious misconduct. Mother at her son's hand to raise it is not necessary for two reasons: seriously this penalty will not be perceived, and rejection or even hatred of the boy to her that necessarily arise. When he gets older, your arguments he would not hear, so physical punishment - a direct path to a loss of trust relationship mother and son.
5. Use it against him trust
If the boy opens you their innermost secrets, and then they become available to the public, it will be very disappointed, as your actions will be perceived as a betrayal. Later it will be closed and alienated, and trust the people and not be able to
6. encourage laziness
Encourage your child to go to the sports section, to lose weight, and the rest of the evening sitting in front of TV with chips or tea with cake to anything good will not: the child's laziness and unwillingness to be formed do anything. Your lifestyle and behavior boy soak up like a sponge. Therefore, if you want the son stopped "hanging out" in front of the computer and go to the gym or on the playground - go with it or are actively attend fitness club.
7. Fake: on the people to be a loving mother, and at home - dictator
Such mothers behavior will be perceived by the child as the norm, so the hypocrisy and duplicity for him to be commonplace. In life, it is clearly good will. Moreover, if the boy unnecessarily vulnerable and impressionable, duplicity can acquire a painful form and even lead to schizophrenia.
8. Not teach his son how to fend for themselves
The child must know how to stand up for themselves. If this does not teach a child, then as a result of your son pass for a weakling and are likely to be exposed bullied, save from that it is quite difficult. The child is not comfortable in the team and everyone will norovit offend him. The boy grows reserved and diffident.
9. Devalue and neglect
type "mumbler" words "crybaby", "stupid", and similar devalue the boy in his own eyes, so it will never become a self-confident and not be able to see themselves as full and dignified person. As a result, your son is in danger of becoming a loser.
10. Compare his son with other children and not in his favor
This is one of the worst mistakes in education, causes a storm of negative emotions: hatred of the mother and the proposed subject to imitation, rejection of self and uncertainty in the forces, and is perceived as a betrayal.
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