Oh, these children's tantrums! We fear them more disaster. Yes there... more of global warming or an alien invasion.
Editorial Kolobok.ua identified 6 types of hysterics, who should be treated as the norm - violent outbursts of crying will go "out" as they mature kid. Unless, of course, you will not allow educational "distortions."
Tantrums during meals
Kid quietly collecting cubes or watched a cartoon - and here it is already being dragged to the table, where he was waiting... potatoes with steamed vegetables! Horrible! Brrr... Well, how can this sustain, because the kid was counting on from the cake and ice cream supper. And then... a vegetable mockery, and you can not refuse. What makes the child? Correct: trying dokrichatsya you literally - giving you hysteria understand what you have to offer him a desirable and useful to clean out of sight. Otherwise, he does not answer for himself, and traces of stewed vegetables badly wiped with wallpaper.
What to do? Breathe, protect the ears through the earplugs and remove from the table all the plates, crumbs warning: if you want to eat - say. There are potatoes with vegetables.
Tantrums IN STORE
Lots of people rushing about, sounding music, sound stream, and yet stuffy, and my mother for half an hour chooses especially rice. Toddler long tolerated, but when you refuse to buy nuts, or bought, but did not immediately opened a pack, his nerves could not stand. And child already lying on the floor surrounded by nuts from the torn pack, and the guard grim shows that you, first of all, ought to be ashamed, and, secondly, it is time to leave the store. And fast.
What to do? Smile - and first child. Pick up his armpits and carried off into the air, where there are no loud noises.
Tantrums before bedtime
You want before going to bed or a romantic evening with my husband, so come early child put to sleep. But the cartoon has not yet ended, and it is necessary to figure out dosobirat Lego, to draw a dragon... In general, the plans - bulk, and then with his mother, "It's time to bed," Hey! How so?! Still go to bed early. And in general, we have heard about the rights of children in this family ?!
What to do? Offer an alternative - offer the crumbs, which still does not want to sleep with you to see art-house film, and it is better to withdraw cry-baby in the bathroom to buy some water in a warm, wrap up in a fluffy towel and put in a cot, watching as just a small rebel roaring start sweet nap.
Tantrums in front of strangers
A young child with a great lot of his desires do not care how many people with him. He should - and that's it! A mom is necessary that the child was a polite good little boy, especially when they are with a child surrounded by her mother's friends. Mom busy talking and does not want to ignore your krovinochku that his whole appearance shows that he wants to eat, drink, use the toilet or out the red car. What makes the child? That's right, to get what you want, arranges loud tantrum.
What to do?Immediately recall the wise truth that the most lovable one who least deserves it. Sit in front of your baby, look in his eyes and the desire to quickly follow, especially if the crumb has long been suffering.
Tantrums In the shoe department
What kind of people are these parents? The child dreamed of running shoes with a jet engine, or at least with light and wheels, and my mother offers to try... shoes with laces. BO-TIN-UP! It is possible that the roaring toddler in protest ushmygnet from the store barefoot.
What to do? Do not drive the child to the shops when pipsqueak restless and hard to tolerate the manipulation of the fitting. To measure the child's legand buy the necessary shoes over the Internet or until the crumb will draw superman with his grandmother or nanny.
Tantrums because of changes
Kids love the consistency, the kids even the same tale is asked to read a lot of times, a favorite cartoon may zasmotretsya "to holes", and when there is in surrounded by new people, for example, the new nanny, there is relocation, repair, or, even more, the baby transferred to a new kindergarten, the emotions hit the key. Well, how else to throw them? It is easiest to break on the very loving family member - mother or grandmother.
What to do?To realize what is happening with the crumbs, and surround it with special care, alleviate the stress. Embrace - plus hysterics - minus.
ON THE EMPTY PLACE
Oh, it's "a nail in the program" 3-4 year old kids. A moment ago quietly playing in the nursery, and now cries cry so that the neighbors, it seems, is about to begin to write a statement requesting to deprive you of parental rights.
The kid comes in screaming because cube lay crookedly or machine drives like something is wrong... For you - the little things, and for the baby - as if lightning inside, because the nervous system is still "not able" to slow down.
What to do? To begin with - to understand the child and not scolding for such outbreaks. Leave the crumbs in the room, let it settle down - in 5-10 minutes toddler will again be happy and calm. And if you have the patience - hug her roar, offer to help him. Do not forget that kiddies need 8 hugs a day.And this is the minimum!
P.S. There tantrums that should alert you. Psychologist Andy Belden announced the list of such situations: the constant aggression to people and objects, auto-aggression (The desire to harm themselves) are very frequent and prolonged tantrums, and the inability of the baby to calm down independently.
Fortunately, most often hysterical - this is a normal behavior of a small person, and growing up, the child gradually get rid of the turbulent tearfulness.
