"You will not behave yourself, you will come to the Babai, and take you!" - familiar? Occasionally parents are not afraid of your child wanting to achieve obedience. That's just bullying - ends badly. Why fear - not the best educational method? Will understand in this article.
Frighten parents as a mythical character: Baba Yaga Baba, Moidodyr; and very real people: a policeman, a stranger uncle or doctor. But in fact, and in another case, bullying is bad for the child's psyche.
It works
Fear instantly fires. How often can observe the child and mother in hysterics, which exhausted a spell: "Who will punish the police (take someone else's uncle, Moidodyr from a fairy tale." Child instantly subsides during a tantrum. This is because up to 5 years, he does not share the reality and the fictional. All words adult baby takes at face value. He strongly believes that his mother would give to someone alien and frightening.
Why can not scare?
Child sanguine accept your words lightly. A melancholic is so close to my heart will scare that at least - it will be bad to sleep a maximum earn
children's neurosisEnuresis and related to his symptoms. Also, the baby at the time of intimidation lost confidence in their parents. After all, in fact the people who should provide security, ready to betray you at any moment. Children who are afraid of the police and the doctors later have a distorted view of the profession. They grow, and in case of danger, not to seek help from law enforcement authorities. And in times of illness and fear of any medical procedures and putting off a visit to the doctor.
What can scare?
Or rather, even, not to frighten, but to prevent the real dangers: cars on the road, a current in the socket, high balcony. It should be done properly. Poke fingers into an electrical outlet is not necessary, not because evil uncle you steal, but because there is a current and it is life-threatening. Teach the child how to behave in the crowd, on the playground, in the team. And remember, bullying - an educational method for lazy parents. Much easier to send their children Babayke than wasting time on long explanations ...
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