There are different approaches to the education of the younger generation. But some parents, sometimes without realizing it, so poison the lives of children, which can cause them serious harm by their actions or, on the contrary, detachment.
Children - a reflection of their parents. It is up to the parents get their kids behaviors and reactions. As one can never behave with the children to the family I did not have problems?
12 signs of toxic parents
Toxic parents a lot of criticism. Of course, we have the right to tell children their mistakes. But if we do not recognize their achievements, then we depreciate any effort. Remember to praise your child should always and everywhere. And there's nothing worse than an arrogant phrase: "Oh, we'll perehvalili".
Toxic parents make fun of a child, pointing to his shortcomings. "Oh, you're always so clumsy!" "You are my korovushka!" It seems, and not hurt, but when it turns into a "persecution", and even from an adult... Should be ashamed! One woman psychologist explains the line between a joke and mockery: "The joke - it is up to as long as the other does not hurt." Keep this in mind.
Toxic parents leave the child alone with the problem. "Consults itself with the problems, you are a grown boy!" "Remember, my son, we live in the real world." Understand that there is nothing worse than to deny your child help when he asked about it this way, the more explaining is genuine concern about it.
Toxic parents condemn the child for emotional expression. Take, for example, the ordinary phrase: "Boys Do not Cry." Throw it and other similar from your vocabulary forever. Remember, a child of either sex is necessary from time to time to express their feelings to grow emotionally healthy person. Forget the "old wives' training methods, if you want to raise happy and successful person.
Toxic parents accuse their children of all troubles. Usually, children abused and accused them of all sins (and even their own!) Those parents who themselves were deprived of warmth and affection in childhood. Even if so, who gave you the right to transfer its own experiences to their children?
Toxic parents do not fulfill their promises. This word must be kept. Is always. And point. This is especially true of young children who have just formed an image of correct behavior. With teenagers complicated. They simply cease to believe you and will not expect anything good. How else? You will never fulfill their promises.
Toxic parents are manipulated by baby gifts. We hope that you give gifts and give your children pocket money just like that. Without phrases like this: "If you are not going to learn better, you will lose your bike this year." Under no circumstances should one try to control a child with money and gifts - it is fundamentally wrong behavior.
Toxic parents force children to realize their unfulfilled dreams. Have you ever thought that the child may have his own dream, totally different from yours? It would be very selfish of him to impose their beliefs and goals.
Toxic parents put their own interests above all else. They did not reckon with the opinion of the child. Of course, parents - the main family. But you have ever been asked by his son or daughter, what do they want? Where to go to relax, how to spend the weekend and the like? Respect their opinion.
Toxic parents raise "silence." This is absolutely childish attitude on the part of the adult child can cause real injury. Do not ignore your children, try to pronounce every problem and work together to find ways to solve it.
Toxic parents do not respect personal boundaries child. You are constantly in control of the child and rummage through his things? If we are talking about teenagers - it is quite natural to cause a riot. The child begins to talk back, rude and would often spend time away from home.
Toxic parents are doing their children debtors. "Yes I am I stick on the job 12 hours a day in order to make you feel that there is! Have you ever said to me, thank you? "The familiar phrase? It hurt hurt the feelings of the children. Do not make yourself a victim, but from their own eternal debtor baby. You look, and communication will improve.
Simply exclude these 12 mistakes, and then you will have a chance to grow up happy, successful, strong and wise man who will support you in this old age.
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