Playground - great place to stroll in the fresh air with your child where he can not only get some fresh air, but also to communicate with other children. However, this is not always a walk turns out perfect, and all because in the sandbox, there are certain rules for both children and their parents. But judging by the experience of their parents are significantly more likely to break.
Very often first conflictscrumb falls exactly in the sandbox. And the main task of parents is to teach your child to cope with them. You can use the basic advice of psychologists and experienced parents. How to help your child to adequately get out of a conflict situation or altogether avoid it.
You can not make crumbs to share their toys. Often, as soon as the child take his toy, you can hear a couple of standard phrases: "Share your bucket, you're a boy, and boys should concede girls "," Are you greedy or what? "" You have played enough, give the machine the other boy, "and such" sand "pearls can hear great a bunch of. Of course, saying this kind of phrase your fidget, mom sure that it would be better. Will be! But not your tomboy.
Until the age of three the child perceives any of your personal item as an extension of himself, so any attempt on his own subconscious regarded it as a grave "Otbiratelstvo".
Suffice it in this situation to ask the crumbs, if he is willing to share his toy right now, or No, while stressing on the fact that he gives her only for a while, and then he can get it back again currently. If a pipsqueak still unwilling to part with his "good", then force him to do it more than absolutely not necessary. And do not worry parents that otherwise the child will grow up selfish - the right approach to the issue on the part of parents, pipsqueak only learn over time to defend and protect their private space.
It is necessary to teach the child to ask if you can take someone else's thing. Similarly, it is important that the child is able to defend its borders, just as he must learn to respect the personal space of other children. And though this rule is often frustrating crumbs, nevertheless it, clear action and a good example by Parents can play a big role in that as an adult the child will feel as their own and others' border.
It is forbidden to make comments other people's children. If your crumb that is not shared with another child or had a fight with him, to show to someone else's offspring the meaning of a claim does not, at the same time to stop any malicious actions on his part you have a complete right. Firstly, even if the child is really wrong, you are not an authority for him, so as a result it will only take you a wicked aunt. And, secondly, the communication between a need to produce a child with the child and parent to parent. Therefore, this issue should be discussed with someone from adults. But be prepared that with the same "dispute" can also refer other parents to you.
Do not use the phrase: "I do not know how to play with children is normal, then play one." This phrase can be heard in each sandbox and many parents repeat it like a mantra almost daily. This is extremely wrong approach on their part. Huge mistake is to escape from the "battlefield," not even tried to explain to the child how could resolve the situation. This behavior of the adult subsequently leads to the fact that the child develops a model of behavior in which it will "run" at the slightest difficulty.
It is not necessary to bring up other people's parents. In the last paragraph dealt with the appropriate observations and, most importantly, they must come from a particular situation. But give advice from my own experience, it is better not worth it, especially if the person does not need them. Every parent knows better than anyone else what is good for his children. And, for example, the council put on someone else's hat child in windy weather can cause dissatisfaction and resentment on the part of parents who choose not to "coddle" his child.
Also be sure to ask about any dangers of children's sandpit and how to avoid them
