Mistakes made by parents with child care may adversely affect their psycho-emotional state, behavior, form a complex and cause problems in communicating with peers. So you need to know what the 5 errors should not be allowed, raising his favorite child.
Understand what you are doing something wrong with the upbringing of the child, usually simple: just watch him. For example, if a baby or older child has become too active or quiet and introverted, vulnerable and irritable, too impressionable, and there was a lot of fear, it is a sign that you have the wrong approach to it education.
Error number 1. categorical prohibitions
Some parents their prohibitionsand taboos do not give the child the right to vote and choose. This is one of the worst mistakes parents in the upbringing. So, you need to give your child the opportunity to express their needs to find ways to solve the problem or give arguments why you do something to him is not permitted. For example, you do not allow your child to run out on the road: explain to him what might be the consequences (an accident, injury, a hospital, or even that it may have to pick up for inadequate parenting duties).
Error number 2. excessive demands
If you will be too much to demand from his child, then later he will be irritable, stubbornand does not hear your requests, arrangements and requirements. It is better to find an approach to the child, to your demands not only performed, but became his inner convictions and habits. For example, about making the bed, wash and eat breakfast in the morning, you can not keep, and do it with your child, creating his daily habits.
Mistake number 3. Notation and comparison with other children
Notation - not the best way to convey to the child that he is wrong in any given situation. He can be sometimes resorted to, but often repeated notations lose their educational value and usually lead to the children's protest. Also, in any case can not compare the child with other children, because he - individuality. Any comparisons with other lead to hatred to the person with whom he was compared, inferiority complexes and problems in dealing with the child's parents, because they consider him worse than the others (in a sense).
Error number 4. Overprotective
If you are too took care of their child, this can lead to several negative consequences, such as neurosis, socialization problems (in the child will have difficulty in communicating with peers), inability to achieve their goals, to stand up for themselves and express their opinions. Therefore, from an early age should give the child the opportunity to exercise their independence and individuality.
Error number 5. excessive indulgence
This is another extreme, which should not be allowed: if the child is on demand all provided on a silver platter, it will not be ready for the slightest difficulties of life and not be able to achieve their goals and solve their Problems. Spoiled children are highly susceptible to neurosis, have inflated self-esteem and not ready to be independent.
You will also be useful to learn about signs that your child is spoiled.
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