Modern mothers must have just unlimited patience. Stress at work, constant workload with household chores, and even not the most obedient children in the world... All this makes mothers nervous and break down on loved ones. Often after this there is a feeling of guilt, especially if they shouted at their own child.
Calm down and pull yourself together. You are not a tyrant or a terrible mother at all, just the circumstances of your life have developed in such a way that it is difficult for you to control yourself. But there is great news:learn to control your own nervesand you can keep your composure. And it's actually not hard at all.
One interesting way was suggested by a young mom and Instagram blogger Kelly Holmes. That's what it is. Every morning she puts on her hand the most ordinary hair ties. "Well, what's the trick here?" - you ask.
She called her method “5 rubber bands”. The woman herself, by her own admission, is a bright representative of the choleric temperament and is famous for her incredibly explosive character. And it is primarily her children who suffer from this.
So, first all the elastic bands are put on the left hand. If a conflict occurs, and mother involuntarily switched to screaming,then one of the elastic bands immediately moves to the right wrist. This is a penalty area. For each rubber band worn on the right hand, 5 good things will need to be done.
What could it be?Kiss your child, play a long-promised game with him, hug, sing a song. Anything, as long as it's a nice thing, and it touches a child.
According to the girl who invented this method, it teaches self-discipline and helps to build relationships with the baby. Every day, you should try to keep the total number of breakdowns does not exceed five.
This interesting method is based on psychological research, according to which, in order to to restore good relations after a quarrel or resentment, you need to take five positive steps towards to a person. Did a bad deed - correct it with five good deeds.
But back to our own breakdowns. To some, this method may seem silly, to someone very simple and ineffective. And you just take it and try it for yourself. Its purpose is to teach you self-control and show you how nice it is to do something for your child.
You no longer need to morally punish and destroy yourself. You improve before your eyes, learn to be balanced and restrained, and at the same time show your son or daughter that you are very sorry for your own breakdown, and you are ready to atone for your guilt.
Try doing this for a few days and you will see how your experience will positively affect your child. He may want to play this fun and instructive game with you and put rubber bands on his arm too. It's always easier to do everything together.
Well, even if not, he will definitely appreciate your efforts. Especially if you now even more often begin to hug him, kiss and confess your love. You will be surprised how this will affect your relationship.
The creator of the “5 rubber bands” method, some time after she started using it, became more restrained and calm. In her own words, very often she walks all day with a full set of rubber bands on her left arm. Maybe you should try?
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