Have you ever wondered why this happens? Here you are friends with a person, make friends, and then bam, you are bred by life circumstances in different directions. After all, it would seem that friendship, like love, should be eternal. But, unfortunately, even in love this happens when two people suddenly realize that they are looking at life from completely different angles.
Yes, I do not argue that there are people who have carried their friendship through the years, they are already over 50, and they continue to communicate literally from kindergarten. But for the most part, people change their social circle over the years. The older a person gets, the fewer institute friends are with him and the fewer classmates.
Of course, it is very difficult without friends at all. I'm looking back at my life right now, thinking about my friends, and it's just getting sick. It's a pity the years that were spent, or rather it's a pity that we could not go further together in life. But why is this happening? Why, even while living in the same city, can we rarely call childhood friends, let alone see each other? Why do we sometimes forget about each other's birthdays, don't congratulate each other on holidays, and sometimes don't say hello?
In fact, everything is very simple. A person may have new interests that old friends do not share at all. As a result, friendship slowly begins to fade, and there is no trace of it left. And other people appear, new acquaintances, and you have common interests with these people. At first, it becomes somehow uncomfortable from the realization that you have forgotten your friends. And then you realize that they don’t really need you either, and calm down.
In addition, over the years, a person's worldview changes. We begin to decide for ourselves with whom we like to communicate, with whom we want to be friends, and with whom we do not. Of course, if old friends go through life together, have common interests, develop together and achieve something, then this is wonderful. But most of the time it doesn't!
A person becomes more experienced, smarter, wiser over the years. And life experience leaves an imprint on us, we begin to live differently, we no longer communicate with those people with whom we don’t know what to talk about, they are no longer interesting to us. By the way, over the years, a person in all his relationships is looking for benefits! No, not material, but, for example, the benefit can be expressed in support, care, ease of communication, etc.
With age, a person is looking for something new, more interesting for him, new acquaintances, new emotions, new hobbies, maybe place of work, hobbies, etc. And, if the old friendship is not able to give something new and interesting, then it will eventually fade away.
Agree, if you yourself are developing, striving for something and somewhere, and your friends continue to live a normal and familiar life for them, do they cease to be interesting to you?
With age, a person begins to understand more and more the value of his life. Therefore, he will not spend it on something that is not interesting to him. By the way, this happens not only in friendship, but also in love. When one partner wants to develop, strives somewhere, changes something, and the second prefers to live in his shell and not move anywhere, then the relationship begins to deteriorate.
Over the years, we begin to understand people much better. We clearly know who is behaving immorally, wrongly, inappropriately. And we just leave, we don’t condemn, but we don’t want to see something like that next to us. Sometimes friends themselves are eliminated when someone gets married or gets married, gives birth to a child. Because different interests, different hobbies, conversations. Well, you get it, right?
So don't be afraid to change your social circle, it's completely normal. This is how it happens for the majority, time changes us, and this process does not depend on us!
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