Now, we can say that there are quite a few self-respecting women. Many are so afraid to put a man in his place with his behavior and attitude, probably because of the fear of being alone or for some other reason. But, if a woman respects herself, she will never tolerate certain things.
I recently saw with my own eyes what a truly self-respecting woman is, and it happened purely by accident. I was just having a nice video call with my old friend. I had free time, and she was going to go on a date with a man. We were not going to talk for a long time, because the man had to drive up by 7 pm. But the conversation dragged on. A friend has long been sitting with hair and make-up. It was 20 minutes past seven, and I asked her if she was going to call the gentleman, but she replied: "No."
Half an hour later I asked the same question again, but she again dryly answered: “No,” and we continued the conversation. And at 8 pm the doorbell rang. The friend did not interrupt our connection, moved away, and after a couple of minutes returned to her place.
She just continued to chat with me as if nothing had happened or as if someone had the wrong address. I asked her if she was going on a date, but for the third time she said, "No."
What happened, Masha? I asked a friend.
“It’s all right,” she answered, “I just asked him who he takes me for, which he allows himself late for a whole hour, and does not even warn of anything, and then threw a bouquet in his face, and closed a door.
Even I, with my cockroaches in my head, considered her behavior to be too much. Although, to be honest, I admired her act like that. There are few women who value themselves like this, those who do not tolerate such an attitude towards themselves. And most importantly, she does not make indulgences, but puts herself like that from the very first days!
In defense of a friend, I’ll say that that man didn’t even come up with any excuses to explain his lateness. So he got what he deserved!
My friend always says that you need to teach men how they should treat you. And I think she's completely right. Not everyone is lucky with men, not all husbands and boyfriends are attentive, keep promises and respect their soul mates.
I'm wondering, do you tolerate disrespectful attitude of men towards you?
This is something no woman should tolerate.
- Fifty/fifty relationships. This is when a man makes sure that you pay as much as he does, do as much as he does, etc.
- When a man asks you to pay bills. I understand that you yourself may want to offer to split the bill in half, but if a man constantly tells you that everyone should pay for himself, then this is already too much.
- When a man is late, and does not even warn.
- When a man does not keep his promises.
- When a man postpones meetings at the last moment, as if you are a fallback.
- When he lies about who he spends time with and where.
- When he constantly teases you, making fun of your appearance, achievements, mental abilities.
- When he flirts with others, and does not even hide it.
- He constantly asks you for money.
- He does not introduce you to his friends, acquaintances and relatives as a loved one.
Of course, the list can go on and on, but the most important thing is to feel that something is not right in your relationship. If something offends you, offends you, if you are unpleasant, offended, hurt, you don’t need to listen to him, that it’s just that you are so sensitive! If he devalues your feelings, then you should think about whether you need to communicate with him at all.
A woman who respects herself, loves and appreciates herself, will not allow a man to treat her like that!
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