Relationships with people are not always perfect. Yes, in principle, it cannot be the same, so that everything is always smooth and calm. Even in healthy relationships, some omissions can arise, and here it is important to resolve them correctly, without insulting or humiliating each other. But sometimes the question arises: is the right person next to us? There are big difficulties in relationships, some problems, and instead of solving them, we suddenly realize that we don’t know what to do at all. Hands seem to drop.
In this case, I suggest that you first understand yourself, and ask yourself just 2 simple questions, the answers to which will help you understand everything. You will finally be able to honestly answer yourself whether you need to continue to fight for these relationships, or is it better to quit before it’s too late and go on your own way.
Here are the questions!
The first question is: with this person do you gain a charge of energy, vitality, or, on the contrary, do you lose it all?
If the person who is next to you gives you a great boost of energy, the desire to live, grow, move forward, learn something new - that's great. If the opposite is true, then this is a rather disturbing signal, unfortunately!
No matter how much you cling to such relationships, they still cannot last for too long. After all, relationships need to be fed from somewhere, the desire to build them further. And, if next to a partner you feel sick, stuffy and bad, you don’t get anything from him, and you constantly invest, then a normal life with a person will definitely not work.
Therefore, even if you doubt, but you know for sure that your partner is drawing all the vitality out of you, that you are not able to do something next to him, move somewhere, develop, you just don’t have the energy and desire to do something, then you should think about whether it makes sense to continue such “lifeless” relationships.
Often a person thinks only with his heart. Shows understanding and compassion to the partner. At the same time, he feels empty. What if your partner is a real energy vampire? Then, throughout your further communication, he will feed on your vitality until he completely takes them away.
Ask yourself this question again, think carefully: next to your partner, are you full of energy and gaining it, or are you just spending it? Until you are honest with yourself, nothing will change!
The second question is: why are you still with this person, why do you love and appreciate him?
Just take your time with your answer. In general, the answer, exactly the right one, should come to you immediately. That's the first thing that came to your mind, this is the truth!
Therefore, if one or more reasons come to your mind why you value your partner, why choose him every day, why do you want to continue to be close to him, then this is wonderful, it means that the one who should be with you be. If you really thought about it, the question led you to a dead end, and you don’t even know how to answer it, then this is an alarming bell.
In this case, it’s better not to even try to be where you feel uncomfortable, not torturing yourself or your partner, and just leave. It is this act that will allow you and your partner to find happiness, perhaps with a completely different partner, but still. I am sure that in the future you will be able to meet the very person with whom you will really feel comfortable, easy, with whom you will constantly feel a surge of vitality and energy.
I believe you deserve it!
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