There are so many unhappy women around who are in unhealthy relationships. They live in pain, in humiliation, in insults, but they still cannot take a responsible step to get out of this swamp. It's difficult, I understand, uncertainty is scary, the fear of loneliness is scary, it keeps the hope that everything will work out. But it is important to realize that when one door closes, another one opens!
In my life, too, not everything was smooth. And I, too, was in an unhealthy relationship. But at one point, I suddenly began to think about my life, and suddenly I felt some kind of emptiness inside me. It's just empty, that's all, and it made me feel so bad, so sick, so sick. I realized that I was stuck in some kind of swamp, and I would never be able to get out of it.
Then I thought a lot. I wanted to understand why the person who is next to me is so dear to me? Yes, he was responsible, kind, funny and loving, I thought. It also had shortcomings. Including in his behavior, but I always justified him, hoping that someday he would change, and everything would be fine with us. I thought that this was all temporary, that it would be better later, or maybe I thought that I didn’t deserve more, that everyone was like that, besides, it was scary to leave.
And the truth is, yes, I was scared, I was scared to let go of a person in the first place. I was scared that I would never be able to meet anyone again, and I deceived myself, calling our relationship the most true love, big, pure, like in the movies. How wrong I was!
Our relationship was toxic, love was poisonous, I was sucked deeper into them, and I realized that it was time to run, it was time to end everything. At that moment, I thought that it would be very painful for me to leave, because so much effort, time and energy had been invested in the relationship. And really after all this you can just give up and leave?
Continuing to delve into myself, to notice the behavior and phrases of my partner, I suddenly realized that everything, I no longer want and cannot stay with him. I finally decided to face my fears, I decided to try to live without him. It hurts, scary, but not to the extent that I thought. Everything that then brought me back to thoughts about him was a banal habit, but not love. I finally took a deep breath, I felt calm, free, I found harmony and peace within myself.
And now I already know that there is nothing wrong with being alone, that you can be happy without a relationship. And I want to tell you: if you are now in a relationship in which you feel bad, if you are not given a reason to stay, then just leave. No need for tears, no need to waste energy, wait for something, that's enough! Absolutely no one is worthy of your tears, no need to torture yourself, leaving is much easier than continuing to live with a person with whom nothing connects.
The most difficult thing is to find the strength in yourself to take a responsible step, but you must do it for your own sake. You are the one person who should love yourself more and more than anyone else.
Find the strength within yourself to get out of your toxic relationship. You can finally find yourself, love yourself, become a whole person.
There will be happiness ahead, there will be many open doors, goals, opportunities. It just seems that we must continue to wait for the partner to change, it is not necessary. Enough. You have been waiting for so long, it's time to think about yourself and your happiness.
Just leave, and don't look back, don't listen, go ahead, your happiness is ahead! Everything will be fine!
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