Surprisingly, it works absolutely with any person. As soon as we begin to show indifference, then immediately we become very interested in those who show it. But women have long begun to use such tactics consciously. Of course, it can be hard for them to show neglect and indifference towards the object of sighing, but this tedious waiting and ignoring are then very sweetly rewarded!
Why are we drawn to those who don't care about us?
The fact is that most people do not appreciate what is given to them without any effort at all. And therefore, when we open our arms towards a person, he very quickly loses all interest in us. While our whims, silence, ignore - instantly able to put on the hook the one you want. Probably, the one who quickly reciprocates the other simply has no choice anymore. But the lack of interest, on the contrary, makes it clear that there is a choice, but you want to be the only one, and therefore you have to fight. And after all, any man will say that it is much more interesting to conquer an inaccessible cold queen than some pretty Cinderella!
All these are not empty words. The fact is that scientists have been working on such a theory for a long time. And even conducted repeated studies. So, in one of them, where more than 1.5 thousand people took part, the strategies of courtship and flirting were analyzed. Surprisingly, the subjects used almost 60 different tactics, which were precisely associated with ostentatious indifference, indifference and ignorance. And much more often such tactics were used by women.
And the most popular ways to win the attention of a man were: flirting with others, refusing intimacy, and demonstrating their high self-esteem.
How do women and men use indifference to attract?
Of course, men also sin with this, but women still win. So, it was noticed that the fair sex more often use sarcasm in conversation, mimic men, do not pick up the phone or turn on the answering machine, cancel the date at the last moment, say that they are too busy. No, well, what? Everything is right so that a man understands that he is not the whole world for a woman, but only a small part of it. And then it will be known!
With men, this happens less often, but still they show their indifference with a rude attitude, neglect, a humiliating tone that literally borders on insults. So, if you think that, say, your colleague is picky with you, is constantly angry with you, or, on the contrary, treats you, as to an empty place, perhaps he just wants to show you his importance, fill his own worth, and so he has long been in you in love!
Why are women more likely to use this tactic?
Scientists say that this is due to the different biological roles of women and men. Women understand that intimacy can lead to pregnancy, pregnancy is a big responsibility, so you need to check the "candidate" before an interesting situation occurs. Otherwise, you will have to bring up the fruit of love alone.
But if a man uses such tactics too often, then he is unlikely to be able to find a partner. We don't really like being treated coldly or negatively. We prefer the classic - a touchy girl, and a strong, domineering gentleman who is trying to win her by any means.
But psychologists also say that if a woman behaves inaccessibly for too long, a man this will eventually get boring, and he will go looking for another one, one that will not relate to him no matter! So, the tactics are good, but you should not overplay.
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