Dear men, you solve just a thousand problems, you try to do everything, do everything, but aren't you doing all this for the sake of love? Why are so many of you so disrespectful to your wives? Why do you think that we do not get tired, do not worry, do not cry from loneliness while you solve problems? You have a burnout, and we are so terrible we don’t want to understand you ...
Alexey returned home very tired, took a shower, ate his dinner, while not looking up from the computer. He had to answer a bunch of letters. He looked at the monitor with glassy eyes, trying to finish his business as quickly as possible.
“Daddy, look, I drew our family,” his five-year-old daughter approached the man, showing her new drawing.
- Well done, - Alexey answered coldly, not looking up from the monitor.
- Lesh, please play with Alice, - asked Sveta's wife, - I'm going to take a shower for now, I'll quickly.
- Yes, okay, go, - Alexei was still looking at the monitor.
Already in the bathroom, Sveta heard how her husband simply turned on his daughter's cartoons on the TV, while he himself was looking for something. Alexey was going to the gym, he put his things in a backpack, for a long time he could not find something, he got angry, muttered.
Lesh, are you going to the gym again? Maybe you’ll miss at least one evening, I haven’t seen you all day, and you’re leaving again, - Sveta could not stand it and cried, lamenting about how tired she was with the younger one, how she was tired all day treating the older one, because she again came from school with a sore throat and runny nose. Sveta cried and said that she was already losing her nerves, that she was very tired, and that she wanted to be in the company of her husband, not children.
“Lesha, you don’t work with children, they don’t see you at all,” Sveta could no longer be silent.
Alexei calmly put down his fitness bag and just as calmly said:
Do you know how tired I am today? Do you know how much I did in a day? I brought you medicine, I made doctor's appointments for the children, I gave two lectures, I wrote a bunch of papers, I went to 3 meetings, I brought you groceries.
Alexey kept listing the cases and problems that he had solved during the day. And Sveta did not even know about half of it all, and tears of repentance appeared in her eyes. After all, the truth is, her husband decides everything himself, he pays loans, deals with documents, bills and other things. He works, he brings food and medicine, he is such a good fellow. And she… She just got bored and lonely, and she exploded. But is it not possible otherwise?
– I am very tired and I just want to go to the gym to rest, to be in shape. And I got it for it,” Alexei said sadly.
- Lesh, could you solve fewer problems? Let me decide half of them myself, or will we do it together? Or let some problems not be solved at all, but please dine with us at least once in a while! Talk to us, spend time with us, we are your family, relax with us, please! I don’t see you at all, I don’t remember what color your eyes are, I only communicate with your back when you are sitting at the computer. I can not do this anymore. I don't want anything anymore. I have no strength, Lesh!
Alexei did not go anywhere that day. The family had dinner together, the man played with the children all evening, and then they talked to his wife. We came to the conclusion that it is not he who is burning out, it is they both who are already burning out. They are simply not enough for each other. That's loneliness in marriage!
You know, men, we really miss you sometimes. No, you are certainly great, you do so much for us, you provide for us, you make sure that there are no problems in the family, but we are also living people. We raise your children, we cook for you, we do laundry, we clean the house. And we miss talking to you so much. And in the morning you swear wildly, because you can’t find the keys, and leave. And then the wives cry all day, remembering your grumbling, because apart from it they will hear nothing more from you that day. You will forget about it, and they will remember and worry.
You show your wives for a mess, tell how you work all day and get tired, at the same time poking them that they are bad housewives and mothers. And you know what? Your wives fall asleep thinking that you don't love them at all, that you don't need them! And you after all and to reproach at all in what! You have a thousand problems every day that you successfully solve, of course, because of love ...
But you know, it’s better if some problems are not solved, but you don’t need to leave your wife alone. Let you have problems, but you will be together. Don't you want to spend more time with your family? Why did you create it at all, if you are constantly trying to escape somewhere? You avoid the people closest to you: wife and children, because you are tired. Is this normal? Think about it!
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