You have been friends with your girlfriend for more than a year, you have gone through a lot, experienced a lot, and now she has finally met the man of her dreams. He turned out to be very good, responsible, attentive, carries your girlfriend in his arms. You are so pleased to look at this happy married couple. It seems that they are like from a beautiful novel with a good ending. But, something goes wrong. Most recently, you were so happy for the happiness of others, and now you suddenly noticed that the chosen one of your friend began to flirt with you!
You and your girlfriend are used to celebrating all the holidays together, spending a lot of time together. And with the advent of her husband in her life, nothing has changed. Only now the three of you began to relax: walked in the forest, rode bicycles, sat in a cafe, went to the cinema. You were sure that the spouse of a friend treats you like a friend. But lately, he has begun to look at you strangely and show you completely unfriendly signs of attention. So what to do now?
Two options
There are two scenarios. The first - you don't care about your friend's husband, he is indifferent to you, the second - you also like him. And in the first and second case, you should not allow a man to destroy your friendship with a girlfriend.
His feelings are unrequited
If you are indifferent to someone else's husband, then do not blame yourself. Because you might think that you yourself behaved somehow seductively, defiantly, let the man know that you don’t mind being with him. No, you are not to blame for anything! The friend's husband is an adult boy, he understands everything perfectly, and behaves ugly. He does not do well to his wife, to your friendship with her, and even to himself. Maybe he, of course, misunderstood your behavior, but in that case he should have ignored it! And, if he immediately began to flirt with you, then he simply does not love his wife.
How to be with a girlfriend?
A thought appears in my head: should I tell my friend or not? Do not rush to go to her for a conversation, because you can ruin the friendship. Love, as they say, is blind. Your girlfriend, even if she is reasonable and wise, will find a thousand excuses for her lover, if only not to part with him. And, of course, she can blame you for everything. She may say that you decided to destroy her happiness, that you yourself twisted your “tail” in front of him, or even say that you are jealous, and therefore invented some fairy tales. And her husband, by the way, will only agree. There is only one way out - to decide everything on your own.
Talk to your friend's spouse
If a man cannot calm down, you will have to have a serious talk with him. Invite him to a quiet, not crowded place where you will be hidden from many prying eyes, be polite, but let him know that nothing shines for him. Let it come to him that the most important thing for you is the happiness of your girlfriend.
If a man still continues to behave persistently, you need to acquire evidence of his harassment towards you. You don’t need to show your girlfriend anything, but it’s still worth leaving the trump card as a last resort. This is if the spouse of a friend suddenly “changes shoes” abruptly and turns all the arrows on you, accusing you of harassment.
reciprocity between you
There is a second scenario, it is more complex. So, what to do if you also like this man? First of all, you must control your feelings. There are a lot of men around. Why is your friend's husband sweet to you? You value your friendship with her, so you should not allow yourself too much!
Try to spend less time with this married couple. Yes, you are friends, you are used to being together, but the less often you see each other, the better for the three of you! It would be ideal if you started some kind of romance, albeit not serious, but still. So you can distract from your sympathy. Be sure to tell your girlfriend that you have a boyfriend, and when she tells her husband about it, I think the chances that he will fall behind you will increase markedly.
What would you do in such a situation?
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