A letter with such a subject was sent to me by one of the readers, which caused a storm of emotions, indignation, sympathy and, of course, condemnation. But, on reflection, I wondered why a woman decided that and what could make a man do that? With the permission of the author of the letter, I publish it on my channel. Events are slightly changed so as not to indicate the sender with their story. Next is the letter itself.
"Hey. My name is Nadezhda and I can no longer live the way I have to. Every day I think about packing up and leaving my husband, whose life has become unbearable. I will leave my daughter to him, because I came to him alone, and she is the fruit of our marriage. And he is to blame for the destruction of the marriage, so let him educate her himself, and I "wash my hands."
We met 8 years ago on the VKontakte website. Then it was still popular to correspond there and there were no promoted dating sites. We talked for about six months, before the first meeting, and in the end we decided to organize a date.
We liked each other immediately and, as they say, "a spark caught fire." What should have alerted me right away was his constant distraction on the phone, they wrote to him, then called him. Due to my youth, I mistook him for a business person. As it turned out later, he was businesslike, but in a different way.
Relations developed rapidly, after 3 months of meetings we came together, after six months I became pregnant. We were shocked but happy. We played a wedding, and six months later our daughter was born. A wonderful creature that I loved with all my soul. But, now is not about that.
Even during pregnancy, my husband began to throw out strange tricks. Either he would disappear for a day, no answer, no hello, then he would come home from work drunk and begin to sort things out. I knew about communication with girls, but diligently turned a blind eye to it. They used to swear terribly, but then it seemed to me that it was at first. I thought we'd get used to it, get used to it, and everything would be fine. But it only got worse.
When my daughter was 1.5 years old, I had to go to work and leave my daughter to my mother, my husband did not have a stable job, but he did not want to sit with a child either. He went somewhere and I did not see the money from him. God forbid for diapers or bring food - it was a real joy.
I completely immersed myself in the work process, got on my feet, the child went to the garden, I achieved more and earned. My husband still went somewhere, but there wasn’t much money from him.
I bought a car, made repairs, fed and clothed the whole family, paid all expenses.
And now, after 6 years of marriage, I find out that my husband has other women. Yes, it's others. There were two. I learned about one from a neighbor, she saw how her husband constantly comes with her to our house when I'm not there. The second lived on the next street and was pregnant. From my husband. Girls were not my fantasy, I found correspondence and my husband eventually confessed to everything.
After there were vows and promises that never again and with anyone. But there is no more trust, no more love, and I want to start all over again. And for my husband, for all the years that I tried for our family, to leave my daughter so that he finally becomes responsible and understands how it is to drag everything on himself.
I am ready to pay child support, pick up on weekends and during the week if possible. But I want freedom and I'm not ready to take everything on myself anymore. It's his fault and I'm tired.
I have a career, my daughter is now going to school and I don’t have the opportunity to combine everything. After all, he is the father and it is his responsibility to raise her.
Tell me, please, how can I be? I can not finally decide, but I'm already at the limit.
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