People often break up for various reasons. This is what happened to you. It doesn't matter if you left quietly or it was preceded by a serious scandal, most importantly, you realized that you could no longer remain in this unhealthy relationship, that you would be better off alone. Then this article is especially for you. Don't freak out, everything will be fine!
Be proud that you are now alone
In fact, being alone is not bad, it just seems unusual to you now, which makes it uncomfortable and depressing. Yes, it would be much easier to pretend that everything is fine in your relationship, that you are comfortable. It is always difficult to make the right move and end a sick, unhealthy relationship. And you did, so now you can be proud of yourself. The world has not collapsed, on the contrary, everything is ahead of you now. You were able to make a strong choice, and this choice is in favor of your happiness. You were able to keep your memories of good moments in a relationship from venting, you did everything right!
Take a breath, it's normal that right now you don't know what you're doing at all.
It hurts to part with a loved one. And many feel torn apart, devastated, and do not understand at all what they are doing and how to proceed. Believe me, you will definitely meet a person with whom you can build a normal strong relationship, full of trust, attention, love, devoid of lies, tears and pain! Everything has its time. For now, just know that everything will be fine!
Your value hasn't changed because you chose to be alone.
Do not think that your friends, relatives, acquaintances who are currently in a relationship are happier than you, more successful than you. Stop thinking you're out of luck. What you are worth and your status in your personal life have absolutely nothing to do with each other. Try to enjoy your life, time, just live. Don't feel sorry for yourself and let others do it. You are not a loser.
You did the right thing, because staying out of relationships that are bad is much better than continuing to cling to them.
You felt bad in a relationship, you decided to leave. Just do not think that perhaps if you had suffered, then it would have been better. Nothing would ever change. You were stuffy, sad, restless, but for some reason you prolonged the inevitable. If you had not left today, you would have left tomorrow, the day after tomorrow. Now you need to survive it, your wounds will heal, even though now you may be bitterly and unbearably hurt.
Stop regretting because it will get you nowhere
After all, you could have ended your relationship much earlier, you might not have entered into them at all, you might not have met that man, right? Or maybe it seems to you that you yourself are to blame for the fact that the relationship was wrong, and you regret that you could have fixed everything, but did not? Or could you meet someone else, and now you would not suffer, but would be happy? Don't dwell on what you can't change. The past should not torment you and pull you back, as it happened, it happened, you need to live on, drawing experience and lessons from what happened.
Focus on your present, on your future, you can, of course, cry a little about the past, but you should not assume that you have lost everything that you had, that you are a failure, and that life is over. This is not true!
Whatever you feel now, you will still love
Now it seems to you that the relationship from which you left was the most beautiful, the brightest, the most-most in your life. You feel like you will never experience something like this again in your life. But it's not. There will come a time when you can love again, and you will definitely be loved. And now you must benefit from your position, focus on yourself, your desires, your freedom, think about what you can achieve and become. Relationships aren't everything! The most important thing for you is you, your well-being, your happiness, your desires!
Dear women, everything will definitely work out! Everything will be fine!
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