You won’t earn all the money, but now there are times that you won’t last long without them. All this is understandable, but I have always been surprised by the position of some women who literally make their husbands plow for days on end.
My husband works very hard. He leaves at eight and returns after seven in the evening, he has both night shifts and situations when he needs to go out and work on his legal day off. I perfectly understand that thanks to him we have everything in the house, we do not deny ourselves good food and clothes, but still I think that life does not consist in work alone. Recently, I began to worry a lot about the health of my husband. We began to quarrel because he works very hard, and I would like him to rest more often.
But my friend Lena is completely the opposite. Her husband Sergei works very hard. And despite this, she complains that she does not have enough money. And what am I, I can give her a loan, and I say that there is not enough money for everyone now, because the prices are crazy. But she doesn't seem to hear me.
Sergey works for Lena as an insurance agent, taxis on weekends and in the evenings, often goes to cabanas, collects furniture, and goes out at night as a watchman a couple of times a week.
And Lena has not worked at all for six years. She quit when she became pregnant with her older baby, now she has two: a daughter - 5 years old, and a son - 3 years old. The age of the children is rather big, you can already arrange them in the garden and go to work. But Lena has her own opinion on this matter:
- What kindergartens? I know how they look after them. Will other people's aunts treat children normally? And they will immediately start to get sick, and what employer will constantly let me go on sick leave? Now, if my husband was a normal man, he would have broken into a cake, but he would have provided for his family from head to toe. But apparently Seryozha and the concept of a normal man are completely opposite things. Here my dad constantly flew to the north so that my sister and mother and I did not need anything. And Seryozha is a real lazy person. Not only that, he can’t earn enough money, he also doesn’t help me around the house!
The position of a friend made me very tense. An interesting relationship with her husband. I tried to explain to Lena that human resources cannot be endless, but she doesn't want to listen to me. Instead, he asks my husband to tell Sergey where else he can get a pretty penny.
- Len, well, what other side jobs? Your children hardly see their father anyway, they will soon stop recognizing, - I try to reason with Lena.
But she stands her ground:
I don't understand what you are trying to prove to me. I believe that if a man decides to start a family, then he should get out of his skin, but throw all his strength into providing for it! I don't care where he gets the money. It is not possible to work with the head, let it work with the hands. Let it load something, drag it, repair it. And I have nothing to do with it. I'm definitely not going to work. I have enough of my household duties, I get tired with the children. What else do I have to work? Not only does Seryozha feel sorry for himself, but you all feel sorry for him too!
Lena no longer wanted to listen to my reasoning. And we said goodbye. I am personally shocked why women think they should not help their husbands. And in general, why should people like Sergei live only in work? But what about family evenings, walks in the park, trips to the cinema and cafes? It turns out that he is deprived of all this, and must only plow day and night so that his family does not need anything. And I think it is much more important for children to see their father more often, to hear his advice and praise, instead of eating an extra chocolate bar.
I really hope that my husband will stop driving himself to work, and will think about spending time with his family and about his health! Well, I have no idea what to do with Lena. I will not climb to them, someone else's family - darkness.
And you, what do you think about this?
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