All our problems, illnesses, anger and dissatisfaction with life happen for one simple reason. We ourselves allow ourselves to absorb the negative coming from outside. In particular, we react painfully to criticism from others. We were condemned, we began to think about it a lot, and even fell ill. Someone accused us, we think how to get out of the situation, we fall, and break something for ourselves. Opinion from the outside, negative information - all this weakens us, knocks us out of normal thoughts, makes us sloppy, vulnerable, helpless. It's time to clear your head of negativity and just enjoy life!
In fact, when we begin to feel bad as a result of someone's negative words or actions towards us, this indicates that we are being poisoned by psychological poisons. Of course, we are not able to forbid people to criticize and offend us, but we can not listen to all this. You just need to know what to do. No, you don’t need to shut up the offender, because then you will go and think about it, condemn the person. This will mean that you still accepted the criticism.
And we must not accept it, but try not to think about it. Well, the man said something, and said, maybe he had a bad day, he wanted to hurt someone, or he decided to throw his responsibility on you - it doesn’t matter, skip past you!
And this applies to absolutely everything. You can’t watch a news channel calmly, you start thinking about incidents, worrying, feeling sorry for someone. This is also a pollutant for you in this case. Learn to let information pass you by, if you can't, then just don't listen! The first thing you must do is to identify the psychological poison, i.e. pollutant, the second is not to let it get into your head. Even if there is anger and resentment in you, you should at least be aware that this is an ordinary poison, you are not to blame that he has settled in you, but now you are responsible for the fact that he is with you!
If it is easy to recognize psychological poisons, then it is more difficult to prevent them from entering our head. But if you practice, you can learn everything. Put blocks in your head, like: if something is unpleasant for you, then you don’t need it, it’s not interesting, or it’s a lie.
If you can stop yourself in time, or rather stop the flow of negativity coming from outside, then your life will become more positive and calm. And if there are no nervous disorders, no experiences, then there are no failures and illnesses.
Here are examples of blocks:
If you are criticized - I'm not interested in it, it's unpleasant for me, so I don't need it.
Accusations are being thrown at you - I don't like it, so I don't need it.
They try to intimidate you - I'm not interested.
News on TV makes you anxious - I'm not interested.
As soon as you can run the blocking program in your head, the brain will learn to separate poisonous information. And yet, do not evaluate people according to this criterion: did he want to do something bad to you? Instead, think about whether you feel bad from his words and actions?
In addition, you can use the mirror principle to create a barrier for poison to enter your head. Say to yourself: “I will never do this to people!” or “I don’t criticize anyone and no one can criticize me!”
Understand that in order to protect yourself from negativity from the outside, you yourself should not radiate this very negativity. And therefore, do not blame anyone, do not criticize, do not infuriate, do not intimidate. Remember, the same thought can be expressed both negatively and positively. If you want to wean a person from something, it is better to teach him something the opposite. You can interrupt an action by starting another.
You can live differently. You can be beaten and beat others yourself, thinking that it is simply impossible in another way. And you can respect others and yourself, and take care, understanding that each person is an individual.
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