What do you think is “enough” in a relationship? How many couples live like this, feel fine, but they lack something. One thinks everything is fine, while the other wants more.
Here, imagine a woman in a relationship for about 10 years. Relations are bright, passionate, but there are disagreements. For all the time of communication there were 2-3 partings, but the lovers always reconciled and converged again.
She says: “We are very good together, we have been through so much. But, I kind of miss it. I miss his emotional support. I wish he was around more often."
Relationships of this type can be described as built on entertainment and intimacy. And the woman has always been happy with everything here, but now there are too many quarrels, because there is very little affection from the man.
She continues: “I don't think there's only passion between us. We don’t just just sleep with each other, although I know that such relationships do exist now. But I'm so afraid to tell him about my thoughts, to say that I miss him, that I would like to be with him more. I'm afraid that if I tell him everything, I'll lose him altogether.
Relationships like this are very difficult. The feeling that everyone has their own life, and the couple only meets in the evenings in bed. At the same time, a man has his own life, but a woman is very worried because she would like more. It turns out that the partner is simply stuck at a certain stage, and is not ready for something more serious.
And okay, if everything suited both of them, but no, in our situation, a woman wants more. She has been in a relationship with a man for years, everyone around them considers them a couple, but they have some kind of independent life from each other. They almost never saw each other’s relatives, they don’t celebrate holidays together, the feeling that friends are more precious to him than she is. She cannot count on him in a difficult situation, she cannot count on his emotional support.
And status is important to her, she does not know who they are to each other, because this has never been indicated. They're just together, that's all. No talk of the future, no long-term plans, separate vacations and no declarations of love. It does not suit her, but what to do, she does not know!
If you need more than your partner can give you. Then ask yourself these questions:
- Do you like your status? If you are reading this article, then I think not. Are you really happy with how things turned out? Do you have to sacrifice anything, betray your dreams and values?
- Do you feel that your partner treats you with respect?
- Have you made clear your needs to your partner? This is very risky, of course, if the partner does not want the same as you. But understand, this is about you and your happiness! And you cling to someone who does not care about all this.
- Can you describe a relationship in which both of you will be happy? There are no rules, no “should be like this.” You yourself must determine everything!
- Do you really know your worth? Very often, people who are insecure in themselves, with low self-esteem, who believe that they can never find anyone better than a partner, get stuck in such relationships. And in a relationship, they underestimate themselves. They can tolerate even a bad attitude towards themselves, because they are very afraid of loneliness.
If the partner does not take into account your desires, and does not even strive for this. If he cannot clearly indicate your statuses in a relationship. If he does not appreciate you, think about whether you should continue like this! Maybe it's time to change everything and become happy?
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