An unpleasant topic for me, I would even say sick. It's hard to break off relations with your blood relatives, but, unfortunately, sometimes you just can't do without it. I have always looked almost with envy at strangers who have such warm and strong relationships with brothers / sisters. And I tried many times to improve my relationship with my family. But, when the game goes one way, nothing will work!
And the pain of breaking up with relatives is much stronger than if they were friends. After all, we do not expect that relatives can do us harm, we want to feel their support. But it is worth understanding that there are a lot of toxic people around by nature, and you will not do anything to change them! It is important to put yourself first sometimes in order to avoid emotional, mental, and maybe even physical trauma.
Here are the signs of a toxic relative
He always criticizes you
It is clear that, if we talk about constructive criticism that helps us become better, it is useful and good. But, if a person is constantly criticized, this has an extremely negative effect on his self-esteem. A toxic relative will always think of something to complain about, he will remember something from your past, humiliate you, hurt you, poke you with his nose. And no matter how hard you try, you will still be under the gun of condemnation.
He is passive aggressive
He may not openly insult or humiliate you, but he may do it covertly, as if by accident. He violates your personal boundaries, makes you feel guilty, while hiding behind the concern for you.
He gossips about you behind your back.
How many times have you sworn not to tell him anything, but you burned yourself again. You decided to pour out your problems to him, asked for advice, and warned him not to tell anyone about this. But the very next day it turns out that what you told your relative about is already known to everyone around. I want to fall through the ground!
He praises you today, and tomorrow he starts insulting you.
And in this way, he simply lulls your vigilance in order to trap you, and then make you as painful as possible. He is ready to do anything to take control of you, and now you are suffering.
He is only there when he needs something from you.
When he needs some help, comfort, moral support, he immediately appears next to you. Then he gets what he wants and disappears. If you need some help, and you turn to him, he will refuse, or agree to help, but let him down.
He pokes you at your mistakes, but he does not recognize his own.
He remembers all your mistakes, and constantly reminds you of them. But he himself will never admit that he was wrong about something, even if the situation was in front of a mass of witnesses. He manipulates you to become confused and start to doubt your actions. He can, for example, convince you that he is not to blame for anything.
Probably, now someone is reading this article and thinking: well, how can you communicate with relatives like that? Unfortunately, there are such relationships, they have a very negative impact on a person. Therefore, I believe that sometimes even family ties are better to break. Yes, this is not easy to do, and there will always be people who will condemn you for taking the perfect step, but it may be necessary! You can't tolerate this attitude! Understand that you cannot change your loved one, leave him alone with his toxicity.
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