Have you noticed that some women get everything and they don’t even have questions such as “begging their husband for money”, while others have to beg for money even for the most necessary things?
In this article, I would like to explain why this happens and how not to be in the role of a "beggar".
I’ll make a reservation right away that situations are different, men have different incomes, but the basis is that a man who feels sorry for to spend money on you, as a rule, behaves the same way - he believes that you should save on yourself and your desires.
Depending on income, for example, one woman has a desire to go for a manicure, and not paint her nails herself, and another has a trip to the Maldives instead of Anapa.
And so, if you are from the category of women on whom a man spares money, let's see how you feel about his money? Ask yourself the following questions:
Do you spare money for yourself? Do you think that everything he gives you is his mercy and you are ashamed of it?
Do you take care of his income, try to get into position and not ask for more than what he earns?
Are you grateful for what he does for you? Are you really pleased with what he does for you or is the position of a "kept woman" humiliating you?
If you answered at least one of the questions - yes, congratulations, you make the man understand by your behavior that you are not worthy to be spent on you, and you consider yourself a "beggar".
In view of this, you cannot emotionally respond positively to his natural need to support a family. Yes Yes! It is in the genes of every man to be a provider, protector and be responsible for the well-being of his family. But, if a woman nearby does not accept this and believes that she must do everything herself, the man at the subconscious level begins to agree with you. You yourself unconsciously introduce him into this state and it turns out that both suffer!
And now I’ll try to suggest how to make sure that a man does not spare money on you, but tries to make your life better:
First, be sincerely and sincerely grateful if a man spends money on you. Forget these phrases once and for all:
but I don't need
yes i will manage
So what are we going to spend?
Forget! It is pleasant for a man to make you happy and only your sincere acceptance of his care will make both of you happy.
And secondly, stop sparing money on yourself, indulge yourself without shame and a twinge of conscience. Of course, you need to take into account the income of a man, but if you sometimes want to treat yourself, then do it with joy, without remorse. And be grateful to your man if you spend his money, thank him, but do not fall into guilt and the feeling that you now owe him.
Remember! A man is happy when he makes a woman happy, your approval and admiration is important to him, this moves him forward and makes him more confident and stronger.
But, if he does not receive positive emotions and gratitude from you, he does not see the point in investing in something that does not please you.
