People can think whatever they want about me. Let's say that I am very inhospitable or unfriendly, and maybe even unsociable. Maybe to someone I will seem impolite, rude, even out of date. It will seem to someone that I got angry with people, closed in on myself, and therefore I simply refuse to receive guests in my house. I will say that all this is not so, although there is some truth in this.
It’s just that some kind of realization came to me that I don’t need guests in the house, and I have reasons for this. To the surprise of many, I have friends, we have been friends for many years, my relations with relatives are also very good. But I don't collect them at home. If earlier I always let everyone into the house, offered to eat, sit, chat, if earlier I could gather a bunch of people close to me at home, now all this is in the past. I haven't done this for 5 years now. My home is my castle, and I can meet my loved ones anywhere else.
Here are the reasons why I stopped having guests at my house
First reason
No, I'm not 50 years old, but I really just became too lazy to gather friends at home. Probably, everyone is familiar with this fatigue and fuss when you have to run around the shops, buying up the most delicious delicacies, a bunch of products. Then you need to cook more goodies so that everyone is sure to be fed. How long does cleaning take? I don’t even want to remember how much work it took me to cover the tables full of all kinds of dishes, snacks and desserts! And how much time then had to clean up after the guests! And why is it all? To be considered a hospitable hostess and an excellent cook? I don't need it anymore!
But before, I always tried so hard when some distant relative called and said that she would drop in on me for a couple of hours. Or when my friends and my husband suggested we meet privately, and we, of course, offered to do it in our apartment! And then the floors to shine, getting rid of dust, buying groceries, cooking, decorating the table, and all evening I I ran around the guests, serving them, trying to do everything to make them tasty and comfortable at our place. Then everyone dispersed, and the dishes began to be washed and cleaning again. As a result, you don’t really communicate with the guests, you don’t eat anything good, it’s impossible to relax, so also cleaning! No thanks!
The second reason
And the second reason lies in human energy. Everyone has it different. Before, I could not refuse my distant relatives, and always offered to stay with us. Even if we didn’t really love each other, it was very uncomfortable for me to refuse. But now everything has changed. I know that those around me can greatly influence my well-being, my state of mind with their energy. I just began to sleep very badly, and it was usually like this after receiving guests!
Third reason
I don't want to stay at home all the time. After all, it is not necessary to meet friends and family at home. After all, you can take a walk in the park, in the forest, sit in a cafe or even in a restaurant. And sitting at home is boring, dull, and for me, as a hostess, it is still costly, monotonous and tiring.
What do you think about this? Everyone around invites friends to visit, and sometimes I start to feel uncomfortable because I don’t do this. But I don’t even want to fight with myself, this is my conscious choice! I wonder if I'm the only one?
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