How differently men and women see this world and how many women, based on their fantasies, enter into initially failed relationships.
Below I will give three examples of initially unhealthy relationships that are now very common:
1. For example, he says, you know, I divorced a year ago and am not yet ready for a relationship. What does a woman need to hear? What does she hear?
A woman hears: the poor boy, how hard it must be for him, I will warm him up, I will become better than his ex-wife and he will love me and be ready.
BUT! The man initially said that he was not ready, he did not ask him to warm up and be better than his wife, he put you in fame, and you, due to your emotionality, thought of everything for him, without bothering to ask: does he need everything it? Will he be ready if you give it all to him? More likely no than yes. In such a situation, you are initially at a loss, and instead of accepting courtship, you will court yourself. Do you need it?
2. Or the words: in principle, I am against marriage and do not consider it necessary to put a stamp. What does a woman need to hear? What does she hear?
A woman hears: he is not ready, but probably because his father / mother / girlfriend left him, or he had some problems in the past, which are not known to you and you want to prove that you will become the one for whom he will change his beliefs, and you will live long and happily.
But no. The man said he was against marriage, he said it to your face! Before entering into this relationship, ask yourself: Are you against marriage? Are you satisfied with this state of affairs? Do you want to be with a man who is against marriage? If you're ready, then yes, go ahead and enjoy. But you should not enter into such a relationship if it is alien to you, in order to change a person’s life position. It's not worth it. The result will disappoint you.
3. One more thing. I love you, you are wonderful, but I think that I am not worthy of you. What does a woman need to hear? What does she hear?
A woman hears: I'm wonderful and he loves me, and that's wonderful. Probably, he is not confident in himself, since he thinks that I am not worthy of him, I will change, I will become the way he is comfortable, so that he becomes comfortable and gains self-confidence.
But this is a big mistake. It is important for a man to feel confident with you initially, and it is important for you to be who you are. Changing yourself for a man is stupid. You adjust to him, and he will find another reason not to be with you. If you enter into a relationship where you are considered too good, then after a while you will become insecure and tormented by doubts, a person who will feel that he is not worthy. Is this what you dream of?
Engage in relationships with those who care for you and are ready to be there for you. Who wants you to be happy and calm. And leave alone those who are not ready. Let them get ready.
