I propose to touch on a very interesting topic. Why do people try not to look others in the eye? What are they afraid of? Who exactly does this?
Scientists say that absolutely everything is important when communicating: gestures, voice timbre and, of course, the expression of the eyes! Only then does a complete picture emerge for the concept and perception of the interlocutor.
It is 44% of attention that is focused on the eyes, and only 12% on the human mouth. Eyes are able to express all emotions, no matter how a person tries to hide something. And why then do so many avert their eyes?
Version one - a person is trying to concentrate
This experiment was carried out by scientists with children. Two groups of eight-year-old children were selected, who were asked questions of different falsity. One group was asked questions "face to face", the second through the monitor. When the child tried to focus to find the correct answer, he looked away. And the most interesting thing happened to the children in the face-to-face group.
Version two - does a person lie or not lie?
There is an opinion that if a person hides his eyes, then he is lying. But psychologists have found that the opposite is true. On the contrary, a person who lies wants to make sure that his "noodles" successfully hung on the ears of the interlocutor, he tries to catch his emotions and feelings, so he looks intently into the eyes. In general, it all depends on the liar himself.
Version three - dust in the eyes
Have you noticed how some public figures, when trying to convey information to the audience, look people in the eye? Thus, they try to convince the listeners that they are right. Other "speakers" do not look into the eyes, but a little lower or at the bridge of the nose, they do this so that people do not think that they want to impose their point of view, but at the same time they impose it anyway. A very interesting way.
Version four - a person is afraid that they will think that he is flirting
In today's society, a sweet smile, a wink, and a deep look into the eyes are regarded as real flirting. That is why, so that a person is not thought that he is flirting, he can hide his eyes.
Version five - something happened to a person
According to psychologists, very unhappy people can avoid eye contact. They will look at hair, beautiful clothes, a smile, but not in the eyes. Probably, this happens due to the fact that the unfortunate person does not want to immerse himself in the emotional state of his interlocutor, because he himself is full of problems.
Version six - a person has a different way of thinking
This explanation is given by neurolinguists. They argue that it depends on a person’s thinking whether they will look their interlocutors intently into the eyes, or, on the contrary, will look away. For example, visuals need to focus on the eyes in order to get the information they are missing. Audials will look to the side, because for them the voice, intonation, timbre is more important. And for kinesthetics, tactile contact comes first, so they touch the interlocutor, shake his hand, hug him, and don’t look into his eyes either.
Version seven - a person does not want to seem aggressive
That's because animals never look into each other's eyes, unless, of course, they are going to fight for their superiority. The same with people. After all, if a stranger, for example, at a bus stop looks at you intently, then the question will immediately arise in your head: “What does he need from me?” As a result, this can lead to mutual aggression.
When passers-by are staring at us, we immediately want to take a mirror and see if everything is in order with our appearance. Maybe the mascara ran, a pimple popped out, or something stuck to the teeth. Uncomfortable at once somehow and awkwardly, and then you want to look away.
Do you also try to avoid eye contact?
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