Many do not even reach stage 3, because they are faced with unjustified expectations, they are disappointed in their partner. That's why we have so many marriages breaking up, and people shrug their shoulders, not knowing why this is happening. They didn’t agree on their characters, didn’t fit each other, couldn’t agree on something, and in order for them to understand this, they had to spend 5, 10, or even 15 years!
But it is the third stage that is not the end, but the beginning of true love. It’s easier for someone to give up, give up everything, and start a relationship anew with someone else. But after all, everything will start all over again, stage by stage, which will inevitably again lead to that very third ...
Stage one - falling in love
Falling in love is a wonderful feeling that occurs in people due to the action of serotonin, oxytocin, dopamine. It is very pleasant, a person flies on the wings of his love, he gets a real buzz from communicating with a partner and he connects absolutely all his hopes and dreams with him! One gets the impression that this will last forever, but there is just a "stupefying with hormones." This is not bad, this is the first stage that everyone goes through, but you should understand that this will not always be the case. Relationships are work, and for their favorable course, a lot of strength, effort and patience are required.
Stage two - creating a pair
When the feelings of two become much deeper, they create a couple. Usually it is at this stage that people get married, buy something, and have children. Although it happens that a couple is no longer at the age to have children, or of those who just want to live for themselves. Then the feeling just grows stronger and develops. This period is very joyful, eventful. And here, too, it’s not love yet, but some kind of reckless love, the connection is felt stronger, it becomes just cozy and warm next to a person. There is also a feeling of safety, security, care, there is respect, trust,
It is a mistake to believe that this is the highest level of love, and it is doubly stupid to think that this will last forever. And then comes the third stage...
Stage three - disappointment
Imagine everything was so good and wonderful that you relaxed and began to show your true face. Of course, at the beginning of a relationship, a person wants to be everything for a partner, so he tries to look more attractive and perform romantic actions, but then everything goes into a stage of calm and comfort. It becomes so warm that relaxation sets in, which leads to disappointment. After all, no one warns us about this stage, but it is at this stage that many relationships collapse. So imagine, everything was very good, but suddenly it went wrong at all! Sometimes it happens gradually, sometimes abruptly.
First of all, any little things begin to annoy your partner, there is a feeling that you have chosen the wrong person, you do not feel loved, needed, desired. And then many simply dream of getting out of this trap. But one should not take hasty steps, because until the couple passes the third stage, they will not be able to find true love. Sometimes this period lasts only a few weeks, and sometimes it drags on for years, then it becomes more difficult. Someone breaks relationships, someone closes in himself, someone starts an affair on the side.
Quarrels, negativity, misunderstanding. So there is a feeling that you have different characters, and that you do not fit each other. Remember, a divorce at this stage will only result in you going in circles.
Stage four - the path to true love
One can only sympathize with those who broke down at the previous stage. If the couple was able to survive the stage of disappointment, she has a second chance to find true love. Lovers begin to appreciate each other, accept with shortcomings, relationships become stronger and closer. By the way, there are couples who break up in the third stage, and then reunite in order to survive the stage leading to true love.
Stage five - true love
The stage where partners do not cause emotional pain to each other, all disagreements and claims are forgotten, conflicts are resolved calmly, without unnecessary drama. Lovers talk more, build leisure together, become one against the whole wide world. There is a realization that conflicts do not mean a break in relations, there is no struggle of vanity, there is more romance, respect, tenderness and affection.
It is this stage that becomes the final point in the development of absolutely any relationship between a man and a woman! This is true love!
Have you already passed all these stages?
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