We are all born without experience, it comes over time, over the years. Unfortunately, not everyone accepts the truth that exists, and continues to look at the world through rose-colored glasses, to be capricious, afraid of change. I am telling you that I understood only by the age of 30.
Everyone is scary
Even those who have a lot of money, huge talent, gorgeous looks. It is scary for those who lived in a full-fledged family, loved by their parents. Terrible for those who were born by the sea. It is scary not only for the old, but also for the young. It is scary for those who have good health, those who support a healthy lifestyle, those who do not have bad habits. Everyone is scared to start something new, leaving their comfort zone. It's scary to take risks. I am afraid for my loved ones.
Fear always haunts a person, even when everything is fine with him, he has experience, confidence in the future, money. And to be afraid is the norm. This means that you are a living person, and that you should, no matter what, step forward!
There is no fulfilling life without change
We are scared to go forward, to abandon something, to start something anew, but it is thanks to such changes in our life that we live! A person needs to constantly change, both externally and internally. A reasonable person will not ask himself: "Should I change or not?" You need to ask: "What else should I change?"
Nothing happens quickly
Therefore, one must patiently follow forward, do something, change, keep, so to speak, the rhythm. Everything will be, all your small steps are important. And then, when you reach your goal, you will look at all this from the outside, and understand how cool you were.
More should be given than consumed
Otherwise, you will simply turn into a regular consumer. You must do something, strive for something, give something.
Your parents are not to blame for your adult problems.
No, they were not toxic, no, they did not ruin your whole life, no, it was not they who did not direct you where you need to. The reasons for your failure are only your reasons. Instead of getting offended and complaining about someone, start solving your problems!
No one will ever give you any guarantees
Here, even without comments, this is the basic rule of the universe, and you must pass all your plans and actions through this.
Pleasure and joy are two different things.
Call things by their proper names. Do we experience joy from a glass of wine, a new perfume, or a piece of cake? Not! We are enjoying ourselves. And the nature of pleasure is connected with the boredom, dissatisfaction, oversaturation that comes before this. We can refuse pleasure, but it is very scary when a person does not know joy.
All suffer
And each of us has certain reasons for this suffering. Someone suffers from loneliness, and someone from an overabundance of communication, someone from lack of money, and someone from gluttony, someone from non-recognition talent, and someone from annoying fans, someone from the fact that the dollar exchange rate has changed again, and someone from the fact that, on the contrary, has changed. And very often suffering occurs without a reason.
Not everyone knows how to be happy
In theory, anyone can be happy. And what about in practice? In practice, only people who are not afraid of changes, who are balanced, calm, always in balance can be truly happy. Tell me, can everyone run a 40-kilometer race? Well, again in theory, yes, because human resources are sometimes limitless. But in practice, not trained to do this is more difficult, you will have to work a lot on yourself in order to achieve the goal.
Fruit is an alkaline food
This means that they need to be consumed more, because they will neutralize the increased amount of acid in the body. Acid in the body is harm, it is a disease. Acid in meat, milk, fats, sugar.
What we eat affects not only the body, but also the head.
Some foods, like alcohol, intoxicate our heads. Food can weaken control, slow down the mind, and reduce clarity. Therefore, you need to give more preference to plant foods, cereals, foods with a minimum of salt and oil.
A person needs so much money not to think about it at all
Yes, money is not able to solve all the problems of mankind, it does not give happiness and joy, but it is much better when you do not have to think about them.
After all, we are practically all the same.
All solutions and answers to the main life questions already exist. Human uniqueness is exaggerated. Obsession with one's own uniqueness turns a person into an egoist.
Addiction can only be cured with 100% failure
An alcoholic will not be cured if he allows himself "a little" once a month. If you smoke sometimes, you will not be able to quit completely. In such matters, there are no semitones, there is either yes or no.
The end result is the amount of our efforts
If it doesn't work - try again, go ahead, otherwise you won't get any result.
What helped you before may slow down on the contrary.
Sometimes you have to give up what helped you so much in the past, otherwise the goal will not be achieved.
There will be discomfort behind the comfort zone
Do not expect pink clouds and soft feather beds. It will be difficult, unusual, scary, but otherwise life will not change.
There is no laziness
It's just that everyone has unloved and favorite activities, lack of desire, purpose, energy.
One must not seek, but create
Therefore, sometimes you need to “do” yourself from scratch, suffer in order to grow up, try, stumble, get up and move on.
Alcohol is the worst thing in the world
And here, no comment. Alcohol is evil!
You need to learn to strain and relax
Any of our movements requires strength and tension at a certain moment. If you move about reluctantly, then nothing will work for you. We must learn to strain voluntarily. And you also need to be able to relax so that your head and body rest.
We must learn to say "no"
When it’s uncomfortable, you don’t want to, it doesn’t matter. And first of all, it is important to learn to say "no" to yourself.
Every sign that you meet on the way comes up to one of three points
- Yes, this is indeed a sign.
- You pull facts by the ears.
- This is a test, which is the opposite of the sign, testing you for lice, sincerity, strength, ability.
Something like that…
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