It may sound strange to you, but with age, many lose friends and this is normal. If you cling to your loved ones, are afraid to be left without them, then I have both good and bad news for you.
The good news: we change over the years and you will become a completely different person over time. You will become more difficult, more interesting, more experienced, you will get to know a lot of people, you will acquire many acquaintances and even make friends with many.
The bad news is that you will have to part ways with some old friends for all of the above changes to take place.
But you should not be afraid of changes, they always lead to better, help you learn something new, help you grow, become stronger, wiser, and happier.
So why is it okay to lose friends as you get older?
Your interests will change
Think back to yourself in your youth. What were your interests and habits? I think that now all this has changed for you. You will grow further, and you will have completely different priorities and interests. And you will no longer need to communicate with some friends. You will have different outlooks on life.
You will grow up further, new people will appear in your life, and they will appreciate what you say, what you feel, what you strive for. Some friends will take the place of others. This is what happens with everyone.
You will gain experience
A person becomes more experienced with age. And thanks to experience, you will be able to understand who should stay with you, and who should not be next to you. You will begin to understand which of your friends you can really rely on, and with whom you are not on the way.
You will suddenly realize that you no longer need the things that were important to you. And when there are no common interests with a person, is there any point in communicating with him at all? Because you've been friends since first grade? Or are you just used to each other? Or maybe you just need to let him go?
You will treat people more meaningfully
You can lose your old friends as you age, but don't despair. You will find new acquaintances, only now you will become much more meaningful to relate to people.
With age, we have more experience, more interests, more topics that we like to talk about, more places we have visited. And life becomes richer, brighter, more diverse.
You will have less time
As you age, you will have much less time to spend with your friends. Less time for fun, or maybe not at all. Everything will depend on your profession, your social status and other factors that sometimes become obstacles in communicating with friends.
Sooner or later you will understand who is worthy of your time and who is not. It will be much less so, so you will not want to spend it on just anyone.
You will despise lies and insincerity
If earlier you could close your eyes to lies and insincerity towards you, then with age you will no longer tolerate it. People who in each story begin to exaggerate, think out, play around, compose, will be unpleasant to you. And over time, you will generally begin to despise such people, even if they are close to you.
You will want meaningful conversations, not casual chatter. You will begin to avoid people who will be empty-handed, try to prick you, pry you, humiliate you, cheat you. You will want to surround yourself with people who are able to conduct conversations, so to speak, with content, with meaning.
Do not be afraid to lose those who are with you now. What is yours, as if it will not leave you, and what is unnecessary will "fall off" by itself. Look to the future with optimism, stop being afraid, and most importantly, take care of yourself.
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