The most important thing in dealing with a toxic person is the ability to tell him “No” in time. There is no need to invent something, and to justify those who do you badly, those who use you for their own purposes. Enough, it's time to change it!
I've made a lot of mistakes before. I could not listen to myself, although there were doubts. I really didn't want to offend the person. While he was nothing, he loaded my brain, hurt me. What is the bottom line? Some problems! I just wasted my strength, my energy, my time on people who are not worthy of it.
And, when I finally decided to turn off communication with toxic people, I suddenly realized that my problems had diminished. No need to think out for anyone, no need to prove something. Indeed, why keep in touch with those who offend you, push you, humiliate you? It is doubly foolish to make excuses for people who know perfectly well that they offend you and continue to behave so badly.
Try to enter into communication only with those to whom you do not have to prove something. If you have to prove to a person that you are good, then he simply does not consider you that way.
Interact with people only on your own terms! You don't need to open up to a person right away if you know him badly. First you need to look at his behavior. The manipulator will stir up something, twist, and a decent one will say everything as it is. With a decent, everything is clear, calm and simple. And if it is difficult for you to communicate with a person, then why are you wasting your energy on him?
And, if you do not want to communicate with people, you do not need to torment yourself with doubts. No, they will not perish without you, they will not become unhappy, but you can get lost next to them. Why do you feel ashamed when they have already found free ears for themselves?
But what if you have already started communicating with a toxic person? How not to get bogged down in a relationship with them?
You should try to realize that you don't like the person. And there is no need to look for the reason why he suddenly became unpleasant to you!
Tell the person openly that communication with them is unpleasant for you. Yes, if you have an aggressor in front of you, he will be indignant, attack, and this will only prove to you once again that you are on the right path. A toxic person will look for a way out of the situation, and most importantly, you will be able to insist on your terms.
Other people's problems are only other people's problems, not yours. So don't even try to start solving them. Better deal with solving your own problems! It is not difficult, but very important. You must be aware of your worth, as well as your deeds and your life. Nobody will do your business for you!
There is no need to engage in self-deception. If a person deceives you and makes you feel bad, it hurts, why are you trying to justify him again? How can you like a person if he humiliates you? It is not right.
Learn to say no. You have the right to refuse what you are uncomfortable doing, you have the right to disagree with everyone, you may have your own opinion. Try it at least once and it will become a habit! First of all, you should love and appreciate yourself, and you should not bow to anyone, try to please, try to prove something. The answer is “no”, and there is no need to make excuses!
Believe in yourself. Only this faith is the very spark that will lead you along the path of life! If a toxic person is trying to extinguish this spark, then it's okay if you hit the offender on the hands!
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