Loneliness does not always mean that a person is left alone. Sometimes this kind of loneliness is tolerable, and even makes some people happy. Much worse when dealing with an empty person... Such loneliness is the most terrible!
Alexander Dumas, the father, always complained to his relatives and friends about dummy people, saying that they made a lot of noise. They are the ones who make this world stupid, empty and lonely. And after all, many of these empty people are always with us in life and they are significant for us, but destroy us. There is no loneliness worse than a relationship with pacifiers.
We build relationships with that, share emotions and express feelings. But then we suddenly realize that we get from them only pain and disappointment, they make us suffer. But sometimes it is difficult to immediately determine that there is a dummy next to you, on which there is even no point in wasting your time and nerves.
Here's how to describe the dummy man
Emotional reciprocity does not come from him.
An empty person does not know how to empathize and sympathize with people, he does not listen and does not even seek to understand the opinion of another person. He only cares about his own needs, so he tries to achieve the goal, completely oblivious to the consequences of his actions, which can sometimes harm. He will never become a good listener, he himself will speak, but it will either be like his monologue, or like a dialogue, where the topic of discussion is always his problem.
He tries not to communicate with emotional people.
He is callous, cold, empty, but he simply has no happiness in life! He deftly manipulates people, pulling the right strings, and exerting a negative influence on them, in order to only fill the void in his life. An empty person hides his flaws by manipulating people's emotions. Dummies are not familiar with words like generosity, altruism, joy. They are thrown from one extreme to another, they adhere to the principle of life - "all or nothing." In order to achieve their goals, they are able to show excessive love for a person. If, on the contrary, they have nothing to get from a person, they will be indifferent and cold. They are not interested in people who simply gush with emotions, they do not understand them, they consider them stupid and weak.
You can only build immature relationships with empty people, well, this is so, for a while, a long union will be very painful. Communicating with dummy people, we become their water, food, nourishment, a star that illuminates their loneliness. And we suffer, we suffer, we do not understand the coldness of our partners, we assure ourselves that everything is temporary, or that "he is such a person." And life is one, and it passes!
Think about whether you need such a relationship? A relationship in which loneliness awaits you together? Let the dummy person look for the same empty one, and let them suffer afterwards as they want and as much as they want!
And you do not become like empty people and do not do, as they are. Stay honest and learn to fight back dummies. You are not an empty person! You have emotions and feelings, you have needs, and all this must be satisfied, and do not forget about what is important to you! You cannot change the dummy!
The most terrible loneliness in the world is precisely a relationship with a dummy person. Because he gives us a strange formless affection, and ensures existence exclusively in an empty world. Don't torture yourself, take the right step!
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