Wisdom comes over the years, and this can be clearly seen by taking children as an example. Someone had to spend all their childhood at home reading books, cleaning, helping their elders, because parents are strict. Someone was allowed everything in the world. Those who were brought up by strict parents envied those whose mothers and fathers were calm about life, and turned a blind eye to everything. Now this is all too often! But all due to the fact that such parents are still children themselves!
Strict parents temper the child's character, they make him stronger, give knowledge, and restrict unnecessary communication. They just take their experience, revise it, and look for what exactly will be useful in the future for their child. Only with age do children understand this, and they are grateful to their parents. This is real wisdom, to understand that people around you worry, care, get nervous, because they want us well.
Only time shows who is really close to you. And it is bad, of course, that it is impossible to recognize a person in advance. We have to talk to him for a longer time, live next to him, look at him in different situations in order to understand what he is. As an adult, I realized how wrong I was about many people, how I idolized true scoundrels, how sometimes I hated those who wished me well.
A good person will not deliberately bring you to tears, he will not manipulate you, humiliate you, and force you to humiliate yourself in front of him.
This scoundrel can say: "As you want, live it, your life is yours!" The noble man will not do that. Just because your life is of value to him, he cares what happens to you. He will do everything so that you do not go completely off the rails.
And it's uncomfortable with a scoundrel in a relationship. But here it is worth considering, even in a healthy relationship, collisions occur. Therefore, before you cross everything out and leave, think about whether you yourself are a stumbling block!
They say that you can never trust a person who talks about his problems, but is silent about pleasant moments in life. Indeed, would a sincere and open person with you begin to hide the good news happening in his life? No, he will want to share his joy with you so that you too will be happy. But such a person does not trust everyone, there are only a few who, like him, are ready for anything for the sake of a loved one.
It often happens that people seem to be good friends, but suddenly one is promoted at work, the other begins to envy, hate, and get angry. That's the end of the friendship. So the scoundrel showed his true face!
Of course, an intelligent noble person always keeps his mouth shut. He does not try to impress anyone with his successes, and is silent about his happiness. Well, that's right, after all. Because for those who are more successful, his success is unimportant, and for those who have achieved less, he is like a red rag for a bull. Such a person will share his happiness with the closest and not meanest people. With those who will not envy, and will not brush it off, with those who will really be glad of his success.
And it is precisely such a person who is in no hurry to spread about his life, who does not let anyone into his world, who encounters vile people much less.
The scoundrel appears next to those whose soul, as they say, is wide open. He uses the openness and nobility of others, regardless of other people's feelings and opinions.
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