I know many people who have so many things to do for the New Year holidays and vacations! And after all, in ordinary life, they would not have realized all of them even in a month. Is this right? After all, in fact, in the end it is very difficult for them to cope with even half of what was planned!
We planned to read books - but instead, glue the wallpaper, run to supermarkets, leaf through social networks. We have planned to meet with friends, visit cafes and other entertainment places - instead, a complete bustle. As a result, a person develops some kind of dissatisfaction with himself and a feeling of guilt for imperfect deeds.
It's good that there are some tricks that will help you fix everything!
Great expectations
This is the simplest one. You need to stop making too ingenious plans and pinning high hopes on yourself, so you can reduce the fuss, and unjustified expectations will be less upsetting.
You can often hear how people blame themselves for spending the weekend somehow uselessly. So they waited, and everything was in vain, emptiness, no work was done, and there was even nothing to remember. All due to the fact that a person initially expects something different, so he has a feeling of guilt because of the denial of reality, because everything should have happened differently. Because he wanted everything to be according to his rules, the way he planned, the way he wanted, and if it didn't work out, that's all, failure.
And the most interesting thing is that the person himself cannot even explain clearly what exactly pushed him away from the implementation of his plans. It turns out that he cannot explain, and cannot get rid of the feeling of guilt either. And the feeling of guilt is a negative emotion, it steals from us resources that we could spend on improving our lives.
Therefore, right now you need to allow yourself to miss something from the huge to-do list. Allow yourself to spend your time at times "mediocre", just to rest, not looking for any extra benefit in it.
Distribution of duties
Now we will talk about our dear women who are trying to set delicious festive tables on New Year's holidays. If mom stood at the stove for 10 hours, and her legs give way in the evening, and her face is tired, will the family be happy from this? Not!
Or maybe you need to cook a couple of smaller snacks and free up time for taking a bath, applying makeup, or generally sleeping? Better yet, distribute responsibilities between households. What do you mean they can't? Write in advance a menu, a list of products, write out detailed recipes on sheets and distribute to everyone, and go ahead to rest! In the end, everything is ready, and mom is in a good mood!
Do not wait for the holiday, make it!
Everyone, probably, is familiar with the bustle, preparation for the holiday, and then bang, chimes, and something somehow becomes sad. And all because we are waiting for the holiday, we are fussing, but we ourselves do not seem to arrange it. No, well, we cover the clearing, dress up, but what's the point? Many do not feel at all that “tomorrow is New Year,” and in principle they have the right to do so. No need to pretend fun, just not to offend your family.
After all, it turns out that we are trying to meet the expectations of others, and then there is some nasty feeling of a failed holiday. The most important thing during the holidays is to pay attention to your loved ones. Have children? Go with them to a cafe, trampoline center, entertainment places. Have a loved one? Come up with a romantic for the new year. You can celebrate holidays in an unusual place, but not every year you cut Olivier and listen to the president in front of the TV set.
And most importantly, forget all the grievances and claims to loved ones at least on holidays!
Prioritize correctly
Remember the previous New Year holidays, what disappointed you, what did you dislike about them? Now analyze everything carefully, and do everything so as not to repeat your mistakes. If you were bored at home, arrange a meeting with friends somewhere. If you are always tired of cooking, order food from the cafe. If you want to celebrate the holiday in some unusual way, you can, if possible, do it on the train, on the seashore, in the mountains, in the forest - but anywhere!
The joy that a person experiences on the most long-awaited holiday remains with him for a long time. Memories remain, and may they only be pleasant. Moreover, it is a positive attitude and pleasant emotions that help to recharge with positive emotions at the beginning of the next year!
Have a great weekend!
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