For 5 years now, my friend Natasha has not celebrated the New Year. She does not even put up a Christmas tree, does not decorate the apartment, does not light garlands. And she doesn't buy gifts for anyone, and she doesn't cut salads. Many people have a real shock from this information, but my girlfriend does not have mental disorders, depression, she is fine in this regard. And she has friends! She just somehow decided not to celebrate the New Year, that's all. December 31 is an ordinary day for her, she is calm about it, and is not going to follow the generally established patterns, she is so comfortable.
Natasha celebrated the New Year in different ways over her years! Now with my parents at home, then at the dacha, once even on the train, and also at sea. She, like all of us, spent a lot of effort, money and time preparing for the holiday. And Natasha herself even condemned those people who showed absolutely no enthusiasm. And somehow, on December 31, she suddenly lost her whole mood. That's just in seconds. I understand her perfectly, we women are capable of not that. So, Natasha lost her mood, but she did not spoil the holiday for others, and pretended to be happy on New Year's Eve, but she was very disgusting in her soul.
Until a certain moment, Natasha was scared to remain alone the next New Year's Eve. She did not have a boyfriend then, her parents went to stay with her relatives, friends all scattered among the companies. It was scary, but, as she later said, nothing terrible happened. Natasha phoned all her relatives and friends in advance, prepared herself a delicious dinner, took a warm bath, and lit scented candles. And then it finally dawned on her what the phrase meant: "As you celebrate the New Year, so you will spend it." That day, without fuss, without cutting a million salads, without drunkenness, Natasha had a very good rest. And from that moment it became a habit for her!
By the way, then Natasha also found advantages to this all. Yes, you can't argue with her here. You need to buy a Christmas tree, but it is not cheap, decorations are also expensive. Although, of course, over the years everyone has accumulated a lot of them.
Salads need to be cut, and this is again money, time, effort. And everyone is used to doing general cleaning before the holidays. And then you sit at the festive table, tired, broken, and not very happy!
Now Natasha saves money, because on average 60-80 dollars are spent on the festive table, plus an outfit of 50, and New Year's paraphernalia 30. The result is a considerable amount.
What about gifts? It's just a nightmare. Firstly, it also takes a lot of money, and secondly, run everywhere, look to buy. And if, for example, you celebrate with a large company, how much money will go away, the whole salary? You can buy a ticket to hot countries on them!
At the end of the year, it is better to think about what you have done, take stock, make plans. And you can have fun any other day!
But Natasha is right. Of course, when her position is listened to by those around her, many twist almost a finger at their temples. People condemn her because she says she plans to sleep off for the holiday. Someone thinks that she has problems with money, someone that she had a fight with a boyfriend, or in general she has depression. But Natasha just brushes them off.
Yes, she says that when she has children of her own, she will put up a Christmas tree and buy gifts, but she will not change her position. It's up to everyone personally, when and how to see off the old year and meet the new one. There would be a desire, but absolutely any evening can be turned into a holiday!
And you know, even though we celebrate the New Year every time in a noisy company, with a mountain of salads and various goodies, I understand Natasha's position. I know that if I suddenly find myself alone on this holiday, I will not be sad. No need to wait for a specific date, you need to live in pleasure today!
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