How do you know that your boss is toxic and just wants to crush you psychologically? There are signs and they cannot be ignored!
A psychologically broken subordinate will never cheat on the boss, will not demand an increase in wages or bonuses, he will not defend his rights as an employee. And at the expense of such an employee, the leader increases his self-esteem, both in his own eyes and in the eyes of colleagues. If they obey him, and agree with him in everything, then they are afraid, it means that he is an authority!
Feel the difference. There is an option when the boss is respected, the subordination and norms that are accepted in the company are observed. This can also include an admission of guilt when really wrong, the absence of conflicts, if they are meaningless. In general, direct all your potential and energy to work efficiency.
The second option is to be afraid of your boss. This is not respect at all, but a banal fear. Fear of saying a word to him, fear of doing something wrong, sometimes even fear of just looking up at him. There is even a fear to tell the leader when he really turns out to be wrong. This is when you yourself consider yourself some kind of "lower" caste.
In many ways, how we perceive the authorities depends not on us, but on their behavior. So, I want to tell you about the techniques of a toxic boss, with the help of which he tries to psychologically suppress you.
Double bind
This is from the category: stay there, come here. It is difficult when you are simultaneously given some opposite messages, demanding things from you that are mutually exclusive! As a result, you realize that no matter how you do, you will automatically be wrong and deserve punishment.
Devaluation of an employee
Whatever you do, your labor is immediately worthless. You can work hard for a long time, diligently, throwing all your strength to complete the task, but even your brilliant result will be taken for granted by your boss. Or in any, even in a good result, some defect will be found.
Assigning Yourself to Your Results
Any of your brilliant results in work, the boss perceives ambiguously, claiming that everything is only his merit, it was he who led you.
Breaking personal boundaries
This violation can manifest itself in completely different things. Let's say the boss allows himself to come very close to you, touches your things without asking, climbs into your diary, computer, takes something from your desk without asking. He can go in with questions about your personal life, comments on your appearance, etc.
Criticism and humiliation
Such a manifestation of the abuser. Right in front of everyone, the boss can criticize you, even in front of your subordinates, if any. He humiliates you in public, although in private it can also happen. He just enjoys giving you frustration and emotional pain.
Bleeding off other employees
The boss likes to play off subordinates, so he can have fun. At the same time, he himself does not fit in, but only observes from the side, as at "cock fights." It is clear that within reasonable limits, the team needs both rivalry and criticism, but when every day you are faced with some kind of intrigue, this is already very bad. This speaks to the toxicity of your boss.
Comparison with other employees
By comparing you to others, your boss is trying to show you how useless and worthless you are. Even if you work brilliantly, you are never praised or set as an example to others.
False information
It already looks like some kind of game. The boss deliberately leads you on the wrong track, confuses you and sets you up. And this is only so that you recognize his superiority and realize your worthlessness.
Don't be afraid to fight back where you need to. Also, weigh the pros and cons to understand whether your suffering and your emotional costs are worth continuing to build a career in this company.
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