Nothing can influence a person as much as communication with people. Yes, next to the good we ourselves become better, next to the evil, we begin to grow overgrown with anger, but next to the manipulators we turn into weak-willed creatures who are slowly losing vitality. It is a pity that sometimes we do not even suspect that manipulators are among our loved ones.
To understand who you are dealing with, I propose to learn about the phrases that manipulators like to pronounce.
"I don't like drama"
However, they themselves are constantly surrounded by drama. At first they admire you and even idealize you, and then, as soon as you start talking about your problems and worries, they begin to run into you, like you are dramatizing again. It is from these that eternal victims, liars and cheaters come out. And try to catch them in this their lies or betrayal, they will tell you that you are arranging a drama.
"You ..." (abnormal, crazy, jealous, etc.)
As soon as the relationship with the manipulator cracks, reproaches and accusations begin to pour in from him. But from the very beginning it was possible to identify such a person. Manipulators usually start talking about their resentful, abnormal exes at the beginning of their relationship, who are still drying up over them. Rest assured, your turn will come too, and you will be one or one of those abnormal.
"You take everything to heart"
At first, the manipulator sprinkles you with his attention and compliments, and now he suddenly began to ignore. You start asking him why, and he replies that you take everything to heart, that everything is fine and etc. You will immediately become hypersensitive, hysterical for the manipulator, they will begin to accuse you, insult and criticize.
"You misunderstood everything / a"
We are all imperfect, make mistakes, and may misunderstand each other. But the manipulators specifically say those things that will surely hurt us, and then they begin to make excuses, like we did not understand everything, they did not want to offend us, and in general, this is all for our good. Here it is, again the accusation, now of misunderstanding. Real gaslighting! The manipulators just want us to question our own sanity!
"You Can't Without Me"
The manipulator will assure you that without him you cannot, when you, in the end, decide to break off relations with him. He will inspire you that he is the best option for you, and without him you will be lost, no one will need it, you will not cope, you will not live. Of course, the manipulator does not want to let go of his victim, he needs to control you.
"You find fault with the little things"
Manipulators assure us that we are just digging into every little detail, poking around and trying to find the truth where it does not exist, and we also react painfully to some of their demands. Do you know what? They themselves painfully react to our refusals, they also want to subjugate us to themselves. Do not give up!
"You are crazy"
As I said, manipulators love to criticize and humiliate their victims. As soon as it starts to "smell fried", they try to get out with the help of collisions. You said everything to the manipulator in the face, and in response something like “you are out / out of your mind”, “you are crazy” flies in response. Don't be fooled, you are a normal person, they are just trying to convince you of your inadequacy again! Your reaction to the manipulator's behavior is sane, you think clearly and soberly, and if someone is crazy, it’s only him, not you.
Manipulators do not change, they will always seek a victim for themselves. And only you yourself can change your life by breaking off any relationship with such individuals!
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