Our world is changing very quickly. And the school is not able to prepare for what will be important in 20 years. Well, remember what children were taught in communist times? Who could have thought that everything would change, and much of the knowledge given at school is not important at all now.
It is far from the wisest decision: to make forecasts of the future, and on their basis teach children. The most important thing is to teach them how to adapt to life changes. They must be ready for anything definite, but for everything.
Here are important skills to teach kids
Ability to ask questions
Yes, from school everyone remembers how the teachers said: "If anyone does not understand, ask questions." But did everyone start asking right away? No, because they were embarrassed, probably. And, even if they asked, did they always get an intelligible, understandable answer? Another thing is when a child asks his parents about something.
What do we want from children when we teach them? We want them to learn how to assimilate knowledge on their own, so that they can seek information, be able to draw conclusions. But the most important thing is that at this stage, children should be able to ask questions, and we are adults, to answer them. And you need to encourage the child's curiosity, praise him, and not be dismissed and not ridiculed for questions.
Ability to solve problems
On the way, the child has a lot of new things: work, his environment, people, conditions, and it is better to teach him the ability to solve problems. It will be much easier for him later in life. Now he will face the next difficulties, and think: "calmly, we will solve everything, this is just another problem." In order for the child to learn to solve his own problems on his own, it is possible to simulate specially different situations, and not to climb, let him try on his own. And, of course, give praise when the child has found a solution!
Ability to approach business with passion
It's great when on the way to the goal a person is driven not by willpower, not discipline, and not a dream of a reward, for example, in the form of money, but passion! This means that the child needs to choose a profession with his heart, so that later it would be interesting for him to go to work, so that he does not hate what he has chosen. Do not make fun of the interests of the child, maybe your son wants to dance, and your daughter decided to go to karate. Always be supportive in everything, and the child will calmly choose what to do, showing passion.
Self-reliance and independence
Parents can help themselves with this. It is clear that it is easier for you to dress your baby yourself, instead of waiting for him to put on tights and boots. But this is how you can teach him independence. Let him try something himself, yes, maybe he will not succeed right away, support him, and he will cope. As soon as your child learns to be independent, he will understand that he does not need teachers, parents, or a boss to say something and do something. So he will become free and independent. And this will allow him to manage himself in the future, and decide where to go, achieving the goal.
The ability to be happy and self-sufficient
Do you think that a happy child is one who is constantly taken care of and pampered? No, such a child will grow up with the knowledge that he will be happy only if he can rely on someone. And he will not be able to figure out how to make himself happy. He will seek happiness in dating, social media, and shopping. If you teach your baby that he can be happy on his own, for example, just dreaming, reading a book, playing with toys, then it will be great. Therefore, away from overprotection, let your family have a rule: every day for some time everyone will have time for the opportunity to be alone with themselves.
Ability to empathize
This is important for teamwork and for life in general - caring for others, empathy, compassion to make people happy. Explain to your child that people also sometimes need support, help, and for this you need to set an example. Begin to show empathy for others, including your child.
Tolerance
Throughout our lives, we meet with different people, and sometimes we have to be tolerant if our views and opinions differ. It is important to explain this to your child. He will meet people of different races, orientations, even with different mental characteristics. Explain that "difference" is normal.
Acceptance of change and change
Our world is changing very quickly, which is why it is so important to learn to accept the changes and changes that arise in it. Teaching a child to quickly navigate the flow of everything new, overcoming new challenges, will help him a lot when he becomes an adult. To survive in the modern world, you need the ability to adapt, flexibility, quick adaptation, and even toughness! All this can be taught to the child, again by simulating different situations.
Perhaps, when our children grow up, there will be completely new professions, and we cannot know what they will become. That is why what the school gives us is only a base, which, unfortunately, may not be useful in the future! But we ourselves are able to prepare our children for changes, teach them how to solve their problems and master any skills. I think they will say "thank you" to us for this in 20 years!
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