People fall in love, fall out of love, meet and part. And no one is safe from the fact that the relationship will suddenly fall apart, collapse, end. What to do if your beloved suddenly stopped writing to you? Is this the end?
You always felt good together, you could talk for hours, have long conversations on the phone. But something went wrong. You have already sent him a couple of SMS, you see that he was online and read them, but for some reason he is silent. But this had not happened before. He always answered you, and if he was busy, he reported it by means of a call or SMS. You just started thinking how good he is, and how great your relationship is, how he suddenly disappeared. What is going on? And what do you do now? Take a deep breath first, then read on.
Don't beat yourself up
Many women, as soon as the relationship with a partner cracks, begin to fall into deep thoughts, and look for problems in themselves. What did I do wrong? What did I say wrong? Am I not good enough / pretty / smart / slim enough? Maybe I was too open / approachable / intrusive? Stop torturing yourself! It has nothing to do with you!
Wait a bit
Do not even try to write to him again asking why he is silent and what happened. Don't try to get him to answer you. You will only spoil everything. Just think, would you like it if he bombarded you with messages? Wait a bit, don't rush.
He will write to you anyway
He will definitely write to you if "chemistry" really happened between you. Anything can happen: he is busy, distracted by some events in his life, he has problems. At the very least, do not jump to conclusions ahead of time. Wait a couple of days.
Write a regular message
It's been a couple of days and he still hasn't written? Okay, don't panic. If before that all there was normal communication between you, then there is nothing wrong if you write him a regular message. Only without arrivals, presenting reproaches. Let it be like: "Well, how are you there?" or something like that. This is the moment when you still have to believe that he did not just abandon you. If all is well, then he can write and apologize for his silence.
Contact him in a different way
This is instead of a simple message after a couple of days. Didn't answer in whatsapp, write to the messenger or to some social network. But just don't write everywhere at once. Otherwise it will look like surveillance.
Keep yourself busy
When a person is busy with some business, he does not have time for suffering and worries. Immerse yourself in work, hobbies, and distraction by meeting friends. There is no need to sit by the phone and wait for an answer from it. It's time to take time for yourself. Or maybe it's time to buy yourself a new outfit, change your image, well, just a little?
Look back
Unfortunately, sometimes in a relationship, people just don't notice the obvious. Maybe your communication was not so perfect at all? Maybe there were already clues that he would soon leave you?
You can ask him directly
If you are overwhelmed with anger because of his silence, and you cannot calm it down in any way, then just ask the man directly what is the matter. Do it via SMS, call, and if there is an opportunity to see him - ask about everything directly. Be prepared for the fact that you may not like his answer! Only without hysterics! Calm down, at least don't show him that it's hard for you.
Remember: you have nothing to do with it.
He could tell right away if something in you did not suit him. Perhaps you just do not suit him, and not because something is wrong with you, but because he needs another person next to him.
Set a deadline for yourself
How long will you wait and suffer? How much will you worry about his silence and leaving? Set yourself a deadline right away. How much time do you need: a few days, weeks? When the time is up, just move on. If you are so unimportant to him that he did not even bother to let him know at least somehow, then think, but does he deserve your love?
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