Any relationship can end, no matter how sad it sounds. But sometimes their ending is really for the best. Relationships can be toxic. But, according to statisticians, men stay in toxic relationships much longer than women, even knowing that they are bad and will not lead to anything good. Why it happens?
The first relationships that a person starts at the stages of growing up, for example, at school or at the institute, are the most reverent. They are training, testing, and help define our real needs and our love language.
By the way, there are very few couples who, having started dating in high school, live in a happy relationship until old age. And many of us find it difficult to imagine such a long-term relationship. We meet, we part, we discover new people, and only after a while the image of the person we need is drawn in our head.
Sometimes it happens that the relationship does not lead to anything good, but the person simply does not know how to end it. And psychologists say that it is men who can remain in toxic relationships for much longer than the beautiful half of humanity. They endure, humble themselves, worry, but remain in a union, the expiration date of which has long expired.
Statistics show that approximately 80% of divorces are initiated by women. And men rarely decide on such a serious step as parting with their second half.
So why do men stay in toxic relationships longer?
They spare their time
Especially if a man has lived with a woman for a long time. At first he courted for a long time, there was a romantic period, then everything started spinning: a wedding, one child, a second child, work, home, vacation, and so it took 20 years. And then comes the realization that the relationship has long outlived its own, and it seems like it’s time to end it, but I’m so sorry for the time spent.
And if you look back and think, is there at least one thing that made you wiser and better in this relationship? If there is, then perhaps all this is not in vain? Every experience shapes us into the person we should be.
They truly believe that it is still possible to fix
Unfortunately, holding on to something that has already died a long time ago is useless. Everything can be spoiled even more. But almost every sixth man in a toxic relationship does not immediately decide on a divorce, because he hopes that everything will get better. But this, returning to the first point, is again a waste of time. In addition, when only one in a relationship is trying to do something for them, and the second, in this case, a woman, remains with the opinion that everything is fine, nothing will come of it. Both partners must work on the relationship.
Parting activates the same part of the brain in a person as physical pain. Probably, this is what men are afraid of, but if you approach everything psychologically, you can painlessly deal with it.
They keep everything to themselves
Many men believe that sharing their emotions with family and friends is not the best option. Therefore, they keep everything to themselves. The only person with whom a man shares his emotions and experiences is his wife. Therefore, when there is a threat to relations, there is a threat to lose them, the man understands that there is also a threat to his soul. Therefore, it is so important to have friends so that you do not become dependent on the woman in whom you are in a toxic relationship.
In fact, a person is capable of many things. It only seems to you that you will not be able to part, that you will not have the strength to do it, that it will hurt you, that you will not be able to cope. Yes, it will hurt, but you can get over it. This will be much better than dying in a toxic relationship, losing yourself and fading out every day, trying to somehow save your doomed union.
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