When a person begins to build out of himself what he is not, for the sake of others, in order to justify their expectations, then he achieves a completely opposite option. He comes across as an insincere fake person.
For many, external polish and good looks are worth much more than sincerity. Why would anyone please? Is it better to pretend to be a human being? This is a huge mistake!
Fake people struggle to please others. To do this, they try to do the right thing, speak right, live as society dictates. Just to get everyone else's approval. And they will never admit that they are wrong. But some manage to go so far that they even "reshape" their own dreams, their interests, traits. All for the sake of maintaining friendship, love with friends, relatives, acquaintances. They act fake even with the closest ones!
It turns out that maintaining their image is much more important for them than qualities such as decency and sincerity!
They live the life that others expect from them. But deep down they don't like it, and they want something completely different. It turns out that they are lying to others and to themselves!
They try to appear more promising, successful, attractive, purposeful, and for this they are ready to pretend to be anyone!
Well, a person cannot be perfect in everything. We just live, we become wiser, thanks to our mistakes, efforts, failures and successes, experience. This is part of our life - all these achievements and failures. We learn from this and get better. Another thing is if a person is mistaken and does not admit his mistake, then he will keep stepping on a rake all his life.
But, as for the rest... There will be people who like us on the way, and there will be those who disagree with us. There will even be those who will not love us or will hate us! We will annoy them, because we dress in the wrong way, talk wrong, think wrong, look at life wrong, get carried away with the wrong. It is impossible to please everyone, no matter how hard we try!
It's important to be honest. And when people start to pretend to be someone they are not, all trust in them disappears.
I don't like fake people. I prefer to communicate with sincere people who have their own view of everything around, with imperfect people who do not try to look stereotyped in order to please everyone. It is much better to live next to a person with his "cockroaches" in his head than with one who behaves like a standard of impeccability and perfection. Even starts to feel sick from this whole ideality!
It is worth staying away from fake people, which is what I do. It looks like they are so good, but the more you communicate with them, the more they repulse.
And great respect for people who understand that their opinion, decision, actions, appearance may not like society, but who always remain true to their principles, convictions, their opinion, boldly follow their dreams and goals. They always remain themselves, even if it costs them a career, friendship, love!
Only by remaining oneself, not building an ideal out of oneself and not pretending to be someone for the sake of the sake of society, a person can become better, can grow. Don't wear a mask. Be real, and fake people are disagreeable to others. Stop pleasing society, you don't have to be liked by everyone!
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