It is sometimes very difficult for people to understand and accept the fact that a loved one is not healthy. We somehow write off everything on upbringing, on character, or whatever, without realizing that a loved one may already need medical help. And all this talk is empty! I want to tell you the story of a blogger from Wales. For many years her mother lived at the edge of madness ...
The woman seemed quite normal, intelligent, logical. But in reality, it was not like that. She had no personality disorder. No diseases confirmed by doctors, but something was definitely wrong with the head. And for many years she tried to live a normal life, standing on the verge of insanity.
For the first time, the blogger realized that something was wrong with her mother when her younger sister was 5 years old. The older children played quietly, when they heard that the mother was cursing the younger one. This came as a surprise because the little sister was always an obedient child. Then the girl told her family, for which her mother raised her voice to her: “My friend treated me to cookies, and I ate it!”.
The blogger's sister was born a little ahead of schedule, she was sick a lot later. While the older children were enjoying their normal childhood, the youngest was as if under a cap. Mom shook over her like over a crystal vase, literally falling into hysterics from the dangers that surrounded or did not surround her daughter. This turned into real paranoia, so the older children began to believe that the mother was crazy.
Mom was constantly screaming, the baby was crying, and this began to happen almost every day. The reason for this behavior of the woman was fear, panic fear of life. The most important thing that drove a woman crazy was germs. She became simply pathologically afraid of them. And, of course, the youngest daughter got the most. She had to do a bunch of weird procedures every day to disinfect herself.
Another mother's madness is her spouse's unfaithfulness. No, my father was always faithful, and never even gave a reason. But his mother was always jealous of him, suspected of something, and arranged interrogations for him. The frenzy came when the blogger and her older sister were at puberty. Then the mother got it into her head that the girls want to seduce their father ...
Fear, it was fear that caused such a state of a woman. Fear of life, fear of illness, fear of being alone, fear of gossip, fear of everything.
Everyone can be afraid, because life is a difficult thing, and no one is given any guarantees. But we all try to fight these fears, try to ignore the bad, plan our future, ask for help if needed. And this woman simply gave up, she did not fight her fears, she didn’t have the strength, and she didn’t even try to do anything. Moreover, she began to impose her fears on everyone around.
Blackout curtains in the house - no one should see what is happening in the family, the fight against germs - sometimes it took almost the whole day, the woman did not allow the children to go to the hairdresser - there you can catch the infection, she tore up their personal diaries - these are documentary evidence.
And then the woman forced her children and her husband to take care of her. They brought her money, food, becoming messengers from the outside world. This was already real nonsense. What about family? The family simply played along with her, considering the woman's behavior to be an ordinary eccentricity. And no one even thought of showing my mother to the doctor, because she needed help for a long time.
And the woman, in response, tried to "normalize" her madness in order to remove the burden of guilt from herself. She simply convinced the family that they needed to be afraid of dangers, scolded for any risky actions, she tried to force her relatives to live the way she did - to sit at home and not stick out their nose.
I think there are many stories like this. Sometimes it is easier for us to give up, writing off everything on the eccentricity of a person, assuring ourselves and others that this is a bad character, genes, habits. But in fact, perhaps someone needs urgent medical help. Because it’s not normal for a poor woman to balance on the brink of insanity.
The original article is posted here: https://kabluk.me/psihologija/istoriya-blogera-iz-uelsa-pro-zhenshhinu-kotoraya-mnogo-let-zhila-na-grani-bezumiya.html
