Birthday is more of a children's holiday. These are our kids waiting for celebrations, gifts, balloons. On this day, all attention is only to them. Therefore, the kids are looking forward to this holiday with great impatience. But with age, we stop looking forward to this day. There is no delight and awe, cats scratch their souls, I don't want any holiday ...
Of course, not all adults do this. Many, like children, continue to joyfully celebrate their birthday. But, if the birthday person is still in a gloomy mood, his loved ones begin to worry. Everyone is trying to cheer up the hero of the occasion. But before you try to cheer up a person dear to you, you should understand the reasons for his sadness.
Here are the reasons why a person is sad before their birthday.
Psychological
Psychologists are sure that a person on his birthday subconsciously begins to remember his birth, and fear appears. Of course, because the process of birth is not so pleasant, either for the mother or for the child.
For this reason, some of us want to hide somewhere, we do not want to celebrate anything, it is better to stay at home and not pick up the phone with congratulatory calls. I want to rest, sleep. By the way, people often bring themselves to illnesses in this way.
Therefore, you need to be attentive to your condition. On the eve of a birthday, you need to normalize the quality of sleep, reduce possible stress, start taking natural antidepressants: berries, bananas, citrus fruits, chocolate. Physical activity also helps: cycling, dancing, a gym. A warm bath, clean air, aromatherapy will add some pleasantries.
Age awareness
After 20 it becomes scary to celebrate a birthday. After all, there will soon be a frightening figure - 30. And at 30 it seems to us that everything, went to the fourth dozen, this is old age. At 40, a person realizes that the most interesting things in life are yet to come.
Men are more relaxed about their age, and women do not leave the thought: "How old I am." From somewhere crawls out "summing up", many realize that they do not look so attractive, behind them a long life and zero achievements. Therefore, you need to sit down and write on one sheet of all the good things that you have achieved over your years, and on the second, what mistakes you have made. Hang the first sheet in a conspicuous place, burn the second. Peace of mind is guaranteed for you!
There is no one close to you
If a person's birthday has always been associated with gatherings of friends or relatives dear to his heart, then sadness can come if there is no one close to him. It is important to take this fact for granted and not let the current circumstances spoil your holiday mood. After all, your birthday is a special holiday.
"Everything is completely not the way I wanted"
Don't let negative thoughts enter your head. Love yourself, better reflect on what you can do for yourself to become happier. It is important to listen to your own inner voice!
Maybe you wanted to celebrate your birthday in some other way? You don't want to cook at all, invite a crowd of friends, celebrate a holiday with colleagues. Maybe you wanted to have a picnic in the woods to celebrate your day, or you just want to get some sleep because your birthday coincided with the weekend. There is no need to follow the lead of traditions, you can spend your celebration the way you personally want it.
There was a song like this before: "Birthday, a sad holiday", I always remember these lines when a celebration is approaching for my loved ones. And I try to cheer them up in every possible way, do not impose my decisions, but allow them to fulfill their own desires.
If you have recognized yourself, you now know how to act. Be sensitive to yourself and your desires, surround yourself with love and care, listen to your body and soul. Then your holiday, like your every day, will be bright and special!
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