She left her husband, almost before the birth of her third child. But everyone thought that they were an exemplary family, they had two wonderful children growing up, they had their own business, a beautiful house. What happened? Why did the heroine decide to take such a serious step?
Anya has three children, the youngest daughter was born at the very peak of the divorce proceedings. There were many reasons that she decided to leave her husband, although from the outside, parting of such a beautiful cute couple seemed like some kind of stupid mistake or a joke.
One of the reasons for divorce is the couple's attempt to be perfect in everything.
They tried to be ideal parents, spouses, therefore, apparently, they did not manage to notice the alarm bells. Perhaps something could have been changed then, but now it is too late.
When Anya decided to leave her husband, the older sons were 4.5 and 2.5 years old, the woman herself was eight months pregnant. Usually everyone is shocked when they learn that Anna left her husband with three children. But the woman herself was more shocked by the stories of her acquaintances: “I would have divorced a long time ago, but where am I with my children?”. Probably, when a woman is completely dependent on a man in material terms, she tries to come to terms with any problems and the fact that she is not satisfied with her husband. All this is for the safety of children.
In addition to material dependence, the fear of hurting children holds, and also the fear that they will be condemned. But Anya left, she was simply tired of being a walking corpse with a dull look.
And it all started with the fact that Anya just wanted to be happy
Ani's husband believed that a non-working woman was a parasite that sits on her husband's neck. And she always worked, studied, was able to build her own business with her husband. And she constantly listened to stories from her husband about insidious wives, bad mothers against the background of beautiful men. She swallowed everything, agreed, followed his views and principles, stepping on her own.
So they lived, built a business, when something did not work out, and there was no money, they did not lose heart. They did not take loans, they did not ask their parents, and there were no friends, because there is no time to be friends when you need to go to the goal. They seem to have coped with it. But pregnancy was difficult for Anna, it became more and more difficult for her to solve business matters, and her husband was not even in a hurry to help her. In business, he answered "strategic questions", and all the rough work lay on fragile women's shoulders.
And only 10 years later, Anya realized what her husband was like, and that she did not feel happy at all. Someone will say that it was the hormones that decided for her, but no, the husband showed his nature in difficult times, and there was no more strength to pull it all on himself.
The mortgage is on her husband, the business is also on him, but Anna is practically the only one who works, and she is tired of feeling not a woman, but a draft horse, who has no time to think about why and why everything is so happens. Every person has a boiling point, and a woman has reached it. There were thoughts that she would not be able to cope, that she would not be able to do it alone with the children, that she was completely dependent on the business that was on her husband.
Covered with fear, but the realization that life was not going at all like that was stronger
And Anya left. I just dropped everything and left. Did she try to talk to her husband before that? Of course! She asked for help with the children, because Anna herself took them to the kindergarten, to the developmental ones, to the hospital. She asked for help in business, but her husband dismissed it, they say it was not a man's business. Did Anna try to understand herself? Yes, I went to trainings to feel alive again, read books, gradually regaining my “I”.
When there was still no third pregnancy, even then Anya realized that the marriage was crumbling. Anyway, she fell in love with another, and wanted to leave her husband. But her parents began to dissuade her, and her husband changed dramatically. For the sake of the children, Anya stayed. For half a year, my husband gave flowers, looked after her, took her to a restaurant a couple of times, cooked breakfasts, pampered her with massage. And the woman thought that everything was getting better, but no, everything changed with the pregnancy. The husband, probably, thought that "now she will not go anywhere", and decided not to bother anymore.
And now, being in the last stage of pregnancy, Anna decided that she deserved maternity leave, and simply stopped doing business. The husband immediately lost his companion and partner, for a long time persuaded his wife to return to the business, but Anya was adamant.
When, instead of the previous 200 thousand rubles, her husband earned only 5, the woman was taken aback
Then Anna took part in business for the last time, she managed to help out a very good amount of money. From her, the woman demanded a third from her husband, and left to her parents. I had to think it over.
If then, when Anya told her husband about her desire to divorce, he would not manipulate the children, throw tantrums, but could hear her and try to change something, she would give him one last chance. But it happened, what happened.
For 10 years Anna tried to be perfect in everything, and even felt happy
But it turned out that with the constant support of a man, admiration for him, and also selfless plowing, she inflated the male ego in him to unthinkable proportions.
Now Anya is learning to live independently, raising children, allowing them to see her dad. True, after such meetings, she faces childish tantrums. The husband blames Anna for everything, for the divorce, for the fact that the business is not going on, for the fact that she could not continue to support him. And Anya endures while it is difficult for her, but she, at last, felt herself alive, felt like a happy person.
I am always for the family. But I believe that the family is not only a unit of society, it should be a place where everyone is happy! What do you think?
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