Now divorce is not uncommon at all. According to statistics, women are more likely to initiate separation than men. I think it's worth understanding why this is happening. We, women, are more vulnerable creatures, men, on the contrary, are more rude, and often their actions do not just hurt us, but hurt to the very heart. So it is the actions of men that often spoil everything. And the speech, oddly enough, is not at all about treason!
Most often, the reason a woman cannot forgive a man has to do with children. During pregnancy, childbirth and maternity leave, she becomes vulnerable, and so relies on the help of a man. Therefore, some rash actions and words of a husband / boyfriend / lover can be perceived as betrayal.
Here are the things a woman will never forgive a man
Negative perception of the news of pregnancy
There are couples who are planning a baby together, but sometimes a man and a woman are at the beginning of a relationship or a family of two is not yet ready to replenish. Pregnancy can be unexpected news, especially for a man. If a woman, being in a position, hears the phrase: "I do not want children," then he will no longer be forgiven. Even if after a while the man changes his mind, the woman will not be able to forget such a previously traumatic act.
Cowardice
A woman will not be able to forgive a man who was afraid of her pregnancy again and was afraid to take responsibility in such a delicate situation. It is doubly awful if a man sends a woman to have an abortion! It becomes no less terrible for a woman if the partner simply disappears after the news of pregnancy or does not bring the necessary things to the hospital. In general, if a man shows his cowardice, insecurity, and that one cannot rely on him in difficult times, then it becomes clear that he will not be there at other important moments in life.
Doubts about paternity
It is very unpleasant for a woman to hear, in response to the news of pregnancy, words like: "Is this really mine?", "We protected "and so on. This is a direct accusation of infidelity, and this is an outright distrust, for which, by the way, can again cowardice hide!
Greed
If a man regrets money (if any) for his beloved, and even more so for children, then this is unlikely to cause rosy emotions. Some men accuse women of self-interest, say that we only need money, claim that we are spenders, but in fact they only confirm their failure and greed!
Lack of support
A woman may face financial dependence, an inability to self-actualize, a paused career due to pregnancy, but this is only a minimum. Men can show rudeness, coldness, again greed, irresponsible attitude to their parental responsibilities, devalue a woman's problems, etc. “What could you get tired, you sit at home all day and do nothing? "," Take care of the child yourself, I'm tired at work! " to spend?".
Lack of financial assistance
A very large number of married couples break up during the first year of a child's life. The reason for this is both the lack of help from the man and the refusal to provide financial support. And after the divorce, many men do not consider it necessary to pay alimony to their ex. They underestimate official incomes, feed them with promises, and try by any means to make payments minimal. Can this really be forgiven?
What advice can you give women?
If you find yourself in one of the above situations, you must admit that you have suffered damage. Yes, you will cry over the years spent, youth, health, etc. But forgiving this is definitely not worth it. No, you don't need to take revenge by preventing your ex from seeing your child. Better to accept that the man hurt you because of his traumatized honor. Take responsibility for your life and the life of your child. But do not refuse the help of a man, do not show pride.
What advice can you give to men?
If you are dating a woman, sleeping with her, building a family with her, then you must understand that she is vulnerable next to you, that you are responsible for her well-being, for your relationship, that you must respect your partner, protect her, protect her, help her. And, if you don't want to do this, then you better leave before things get too far!
