There is a type of people who do not even know about the sense of tact. It is more important for them to satisfy their curiosity, or, which is more often the case, they want to offend the interlocutor. I have received many tactless questions in my life, and recent events prompted me to write this article. Of course, at my age it is already difficult to hurt or embarrass me, but I remember how at the age of 20 many of them upset me.
If you also have something to share, welcome to the comments. What questions have you faced? How do you react?
Are you so thin, don't you eat something
Oh, once it was a very sore question. My weight was almost always below average. At the same time, I clearly did not withdraw myself from food, it just did not affect my weight in any way. I wanted to be a little fatter, because it was difficult to find clothes, many things were disgusting. Later I realized that eating and not getting fat is a gift and great happiness.
And I had one acquaintance (even a former girlfriend) who, when meeting, did not miss the opportunity to ask the question, why am I so thin. "Oh, are you still thinner?" - this is a crown greeting. At first I was upset, then I was furious, then I asked a couple of times when she was married, and that's it. Yes, I do not pretend to be a saint, sometimes people should be put in their place.
Why are you so pale, summer is
I have fair skin, which practically does not tan. I never came from the sea with a chocolate bar, let alone a summer without a vacation. And over time, I gave up the idea of sunbathing altogether, my best friends in the summer are creams with SPF-50.
I got questions about my pallor more than once. Frankly, they never touched me, did not trigger any complexes. I really like fair skin, so it is impossible to upset me about this. I perfectly understand what tactless people have on their minds, and I think that this is already their problem. Well, not mine.
Children when?
You know, I was rarely asked this question. But at the same time, I have a friend who is also married without children, so it is pouring in endlessly. What do you think it depends on? From the ability to build personal boundaries? In personal communication, I am a straightforward and rather principled person. This has not always been the case. And you know, the barrage of tactless questions dropped dramatically when I gained confidence. Here is an observation.
Asking a couple about children is the height of tactlessness. If people spend a lot of time together, but they do not have children, it says that they have their own reasons. Infertility, other health problems, difficult pregnancies in the past, big financial holes. So why should a person share the most personal with a curious Barbarian? Plus, there are people who don't want to have children. At the moment or at all.
How much do you earn with your husband
I don't like money matters. There are people who are happy to talk about personal earnings. I have. It's very personal to me. The very top, when they ask not only about my salary, but also about my husband's earnings. Seriously?
I have no complexes about our earnings, we have enough. But I prefer to keep the information to myself. We are not underground millionaires (which is a pity), but I think that money loves silence. And also financial literacy, but that's a completely different story ...
It will be very interesting for me to know how you feel about this issue. Are you happy to tell?
