Psychologists are sure that the mother's hatred is envy. And envy can push you to very bad deeds and words. In particular, this topic is incredibly painful and unpleasant when it comes to the relationship between mother and daughter.
Don't think that a mother’s hatred of her daughter is very rare. It's just that, as I said, it is not customary to talk about it, and not every mother admits such an attitude towards her child. She's a mother, how can you think about her? She did not sleep at night, and gave everything to her baby so that she did not need anything. And you're talking about some kind of hatred! How can you think so! Are they dissembling? Sure! If a mother constantly humiliates her daughter, insults, condemns her appearance and abilities, then she hates. And if he hates, then he envies!
Here is the story of Polina, who also never believed that her own mother could truly hate her. As someone else's, as an enemy, as an ill-wisher. Polina understood from childhood that her mother was not an easy person, yes, a little rude, but Polina loved her with all her heart. She tried her best to please her mother with grades at school, but for some reason she showed indifference. Polina was a very beautiful girl and all around positive. Alcohol and cigarettes disgusted her. She didn’t go out with the guys, because she believed that study was in the first place. There is simply nothing to complain about, a very excellent, obedient and intelligent child!
But Polina's mother told her a lot. Very offensive, offensive, often simply devalued her daughter's successes, saying that this was nonsense or a temporary phenomenon. Mom assured Polina that her success was not for long, that next time she would definitely do something wrong. Polina was offended, but still walked forward, and again achieved success.
Mom constantly made sharp remarks about her appearance to the girl. Of course, she said that she was doing this solely out of love. And also for educational purposes, so that the daughter does not become proud, and so that she strives for perfection.
But once the mother brought Polina to hysterics. And this despite the fact that the girl was always calm and obedient, but this time she simply could not restrain herself. Polina was already working on her own, bought herself a dress, very nice, very beautiful. The girl stood in front of the mirror and admired herself, she was in a new outfit, incredibly delicate and feminine. But the mother immediately said that this dress is not suitable for those who do not have a waist, but have ugly legs, like Polina. Like, why are these dresses, they will not help to establish personal life, even if you wrap yourself in an expensive fur coat - nothing will come of it.
And Polina could not restrain herself. She burst into tears and screamed:
- Mom, how is it possible, why do you hate me so?
Of course, Polina expected her mother to hug her, regret it, apologize, say that she loves, that she wishes her well. But that did not happen. Polina's mom said in a calm but very angry voice:
- What do I hate? There is a reason! Because you don't even need to put on makeup in the morning, you are young, you can just wash and go about business. For the fact that you do not have to go to the hairdresser regularly, you let your hair down and everything is in order, because it is shiny and thick. For not having to go to a beautician, injecting wrinkle injections, for not having to visit a masseur, because you don't have cellulite, and nothing hangs anywhere! I hate that you don't even need to make any efforts, and men will still look after you! You got it all for free, but you didn't deserve it!
For a long time, her mother listed all the things for which she hates Polina, constantly adding that the girl will still regret it, and that she will pay for her life ...
After such a terrible conversation, Polina just packed her things and began to rent an apartment. Yes, it also happens. There are envious mothers! At first they love their child, but when the daughter begins to flourish, hatred and envy take the place of love. Is it possible to compete with beauty and youth? No, for that you can devalue this beauty with your behavior and words, you can destroy self-esteem, humiliate, ruin your whole life!
If you realize that your mother hates you, no matter how painful it may be, you will have to distance yourself from her. You won't be able to make contact. Just walk away, leaving only good memories in your head. Your loved one is possessed by dark thoughts. Hatred is envy, and it pushes you to disgusting deeds and words ...
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