The problem of low self-esteem is so global that sometimes it seems that people with an adequate assessment of themselves are more likely to be exceptions. Of course, everyone has periods when we do not like something about ourselves, this is normal! It is not normal to live when the state of "I am worse than others" is permanent.
Low self-esteem is common among adolescents. And ideally, in adulthood, we establish harmony with ourselves, we find balance. However, there are so many adults, and often just beautiful girls and women, whose self-esteem is negligible. This is very sad, because normal healthy self-love is so important for a happy life. Bends in any direction are bad. Girls, let's take our lives into our own hands!
I offer you some of my observations, and you share yours. And if you managed to overcome this condition in yourself, be sure to share in the comments. Let's support each other. What is the most common behavior of a woman with low self-esteem?
Dissolves in husband and children without a trace
A pathological love for a chosen one or children often hides critically low self-esteem. To live as a man, to breathe only by him, to be happy only when he is around, to forgive everything is a thankless task.
Or a woman gave up on herself, and puts all her energy into the upbringing and development of children. She no longer wants a new dress, lipstick or something for her movement forward, often any desires with regards to her as a person disappear. Or they move very far. Postponed for later.
Love for your husband and children is wonderful. Taking care of them is an important part of our life, our need. However, it is definitely not worth getting lost in all this. There is no need to become a shadow.
Criticizes and complains about everything and everyone
There is a type of women who do not feed with bread, but let them criticize everything. They will scold their dentist with foam from the mouth, to whom they went to treat a tooth, for his rudeness or poor competence, but at the same time they will not sign up for another. Will continue to walk and will continue to complain to a friend.
And the boss is bad, and the bread in the bakery near the house is not tasty, and the man is such a bastard! But at the same time, they do not change anything. They continue to go to this bakery, because the others are far away, you have to stop on foot! Perpetual dissatisfaction with everything and at the same time zero action also speaks of poor self-esteem. This is a very deep topic. Here and chronic nagging, and disrespect for oneself, and the fear to act, and the inability to solve life situations. There will be a separate article on this topic soon.
Writes nasty things on the internet
There is this type of commentator who writes nasty things to everyone. Motives can be different, and one of them is self-affirmation at someone else's expense. Here you write to some blogger that she has 3 unfortunate hairs and a huge nose, then you look at your 4 and such, oh, well, I'm not so bad yet. And it seems that the hair did not increase, but somehow it became easier. Or it’s gone, but you can’t stop ...
Such women from their pages in classmates are just wonderful mothers, grandmothers and happy wives. But they will get to YouTube or Zen, where the profile is essentially anonymous, where colleagues and relatives do not see, and away we go.
Women with good self-esteem (adequate) do not write nasty things, not because it is bad, ugly or rude. And because you don't want to. And if they don't like something, they won't waste their time writing something like that, respecting themselves.
Thank you for your attention and time. I hug you, I propose to raise your self-esteem together, I plan to conduct a live broadcast on this topic, do not get lost! With love, your Katya.
