For the first love of his children, we tend to treat with irony and humor. Well, what could be the love in 5 years? Or even 7 or 13? A wise elder psychologists say: nothing we do that. Mission moms and dads of young Romeo and Juliet - love to support the child and help him survive and excitement, and disappointment.
Why is it important? It turns out, the first, even children love - it's completely full feeling. They charge, raise self-esteem and destroy... Of these, as of bricks, built child's personality, his character and future relationships - the ability to become a friend and a loved one, to be able to receive love and the ability to appreciate other people's feelings.
So, how to do the parents if the child is in love? 7 Before you advice.
Do not make fun of love child
Do not let yourself and other members of the household in the family say the address of the young Romeo and Juliet ridicule and taunts. Firstly, malicious jokes humiliate the child: he can himself explain that if on him so strong and pure feelings, laugh, then - it is bad, that their experiences. Not worn out common phrases: "Oh, do you remember how old you are! What kind of love?! Do you know of yet, how many will be. " So you put a child's superficiality and frivolity in any relationship in the future.
Listen to the child and keep it secret
The first feeling - it's serious stress for the child. And even if the first baby novel amuses you or choice of Chad categorically do not like, do not show disrespect to the preferences of the child. Not to speak out about his choice with disdain: Love - a unique "chemistry" of feelings, so you will not be able to convince a child, you only injure and alienate him from himself.
Be on an equal footing
Calmly explain to the child as necessary to behave in a particular situation. Just do not make, do not prohibit or dictate - it is useless and damaging to your relationship. Very helpful if you get sometimes "turn off" mom and include other.
Give advice
A child has so little life experience, therefore, by virtue of age, he is not guided, even in elementary things. Be advised that it is worth doing, how to behave, how to show signs of attention, and how to respond, how to respond to the reaction of the same age, but what is strictly not allowed. These beneficial parting words will help your child now and in the future. Just be extremely tactful.
Help solve problems
For students (especially for teenagers) first love - it's fear. And suddenly, his feelings will not understand, will not be accepted, rejected, will taunt... Typically, this occurs when a child is not able to communicate with the object of sighs in addition to kindergarten or school. Do not forbid a walk together, going to the cinema or a cafe, participation in joint activities. So the child will be able to learn more about the object of love and express themselves - it will disappear uncertainty. More answers to your questions - fewer barriers for self-assertion and the reasons for depression.
Share your experience
You probably have their own romantic story about first love. Tell her child, explaining how you once coped with similar feelings, worries. It embolden child and his charge safe - all go through this difficult stage. Even Mom and Dad was like, so - and I'll be all right.
Be delicacy
Do not place the child in an awkward position too rigid control, tracking it from the window, nazvanivaya every 5 minutes or every minute looking into the room where sit "doves." Let's be honest: all that can happen, it can happen even if your excessive control. It is not necessary to build a barrier of prohibitions to see and chat - so you just put yourself in the position of a monster who does not understand anything. Optimally in this situation - to be patient, and wait quietly to chat.
P.S. Each love for a young son - an event of the utmost importance and a new stage of maturation. Let these romance will be bright, and if they run out quickly - it's good, and you - to help you reach a new level of trust with the child. Do not miss this chance.
